Ladies, please refrain from doing these things.
1. You stalk him on social media.
Yes. It’s okay to check up on his social media profiles every once in a while, but it’s another thing entirely to be scrutinizing his social media activity. Stop acting like a social media monitor. It’s creepy. He should get to do whatever he wants on his social media pages, and he’s deserving of your trust.
2. You try to control every aspect of his life.
Stop being a micromanager. Your boyfriend is not your employee and you don’t have full ownership of his time and his personal ambitions. He is also his own man who knows how to live life on his own. If he’s old and mature enough to be in a relationship with you, then he is also mature enough to know how to run his own life. If he needs your help for something, he will ask.
3. You let yourself be available to him all the time.
You shouldn’t be willing to give up your whole life for the sake of your relationship. You should still have some sense of ownership for your own time and schedule. You have your own personal goals and ambitions, right? If he really loves you, he would understand and respect your own need for personal space.
4. You try to rush the pace of your relationship.
You should always let your relationship take its natural course through time. One of the biggest mistakes that any couple can make is when they rush through the various relationship stages. Don’t pressure him into taking your relationship to the next level even when neither of you is ready for it yet. You might as well be fast-forwarding to your breakup.
5. You buy him clothes even though he never asked you to.
To you, it may seem like a sweet and innocent gesture. But to him, it’s like you’re saying you don’t like the way he dresses and that you’re ashamed of how he looks when you’re out in public together. If you want to be nice and buy new clothes for him, then ask him about it first. Maybe you can make a shopping date out of it too.
6. You follow his diet for the sake of getting him to like you.
So what if he’s a vegetarian? If you love meat, you should continue on eating meat. If he truly loves you, it doesn’t matter what diet you choose to adopt for your life. He should love you regardless of your eating habits.
7. You put too much effort into getting close with his friends.
Don’t try to force the issue when it comes to getting closer to his friends. Yes, it would be cool for you to get along with his pals, but it’s different when you try to force the issue. You will come off as desperate and overbearing.
8. You let him be the shot caller all the time.
You’ve completely given up all control to him, and he makes all the decisions in the relationship whether big or small. Where you’re having dinner tonight depends on what he’s craving. He chooses what movies you’re going to watch on date night. You also let him make all major life decisions.
9. You take on his drinking tendencies.
Just because he’s an avid drinker doesn’t mean you have to be as well. You don’t have to take on all of his quirks just so he’ll like you. If you’re not up for a night of heavy drinking, he should be okay with that.
10. You shut out all of your male friends.
Don’t be that girl. If you shut off all your male friends from your life, then that means you’re practically incapable of casual social interaction with other men. Your boyfriend should be okay with you having other male friends.
11. You force yourself to be intimate even when you’re not in the mood.
If you’re just not in the mood for some sexy time, then let him know. He should understand. Don’t force yourself to get intimate with him just because he’s in the mood. If you don’t feel up to it, be honest and ask him to be patient. If he loves you, it won’t be a big deal to him.
12. You automatically hate everything that he hates.
Just because you’re in a relationship together doesn’t mean you have to share the same mind. You’re allowed to have different opinions and disagreements. You don’t have to automatically adopt his stance on things. Conflict is healthy in a relationship if it is organized well.
13. You accept anything less than total commitment.
Commitment is one of the basic foundations for any successful relationship. You can’t possibly expect your relationship to go anywhere if you don’t commit to each other. If you allow your boyfriend to be anything less than committed to you, then you’re just fooling yourself.
14. You don’t speak your mind when it’s important.
Don’t silence yourself for the sake of harmony. You have a mind that’s capable of functioning on its own and you should learn to express yourself whenever necessary. Otherwise, you’ll become the pushover in the relationship and you won’t be happy with that at all.
15. You don’t tell him you love him.
Sometimes, the best and most simple way to express your love for him is to just tell him. A lot of girls can overlook this simple but meaningful gesture. Tell him that you love him constantly, and always be sincere about it. He can tell when you’re not sincere.