15 Reasons Why You Should Never Run After Someone Who Does Not Want You
Please love yourself enough to not let someone make you fall this low.
Where there is a will, there is a way. A person who does not love you back simply does not want to. This simple concept is not understood by people who run after their partners who want to free themselves from the bounds of a relationship. If they wanted to love you back, be with you, they would try. But since they are not trying, it means that they are not willing enough.
There have been incredible love stories since the beginning of the world where one or both of the people in love have overcome all the obstacles in their way to be with each other. Life is not a bed of roses and certainly not a wish-granting factory. Sometimes, you just have to ask and if the answer is no, you have to move one. Running after someone who is running away from you is not only futile but also makes you look needy. If that is not enough reason for you, here are 15 other reasons why you should never run after someone.
1. Love Is Never Begged For:
Love is not tangible; you cannot just steal it or force someone to give it to you. Love is a feeling, an emotion which cannot be grown unless the heart wants it to. Sometimes we fall in love with people who cannot love us and that is how the world works; not everything is reciprocated. It is better to get your heart-broken and mended than running after someone who cannot bring themselves to feel the kind of love we feel for them.
2. They Will Do It Again:
If they cheated on you by getting involved with another person, it tells you that, even for a moment or a day, they forgot about your love and chose someone else’s temporary attention over it. At such an event, lowering your self-respect and letting them get away with it would be the wrong move. You deserve every right to be angry, you deserve to question and doubt their love for you but what you should not do is look over their mistake because you are desperate for their love even if it is divided.
3. The Destruction Is Beyond Your Control:
When you feel like the relationship is falling apart and there is not what they’re used to be between you two, do not try, more than once or twice, to revive it. The damage has been done, for whatever reason, and it is beyond your control now. If your partner is equally willing to work on it then fine, do whatever you can to save it from drowning but their effort count is zero, let it drown. There will be better for you out there, someone who is willing to work on it.
4. You Lose Your Self-Respect:
By going after someone who does not respect you and your love, you are disrespecting yourself as well. By telling them that their denial does not stop you from trying will not only annoy them but also let the world see how you do not hold yourself respectable to the people around you. Not being able to take no’ for an answer is not healthy. You lose your self-respect when you run after someone who does not want to be with you.
5. The Stress:
The anger and the stress of being rejected can make you go crazy. Your everyday life will be affected due to your abnormal behaviour so the best course of action is not let the people who want to go, go. There is no benefit in begging them to stay when they clearly hold other things and other people more important than us. If you take it too hard on yourself, you will only be hurting yourself and your life.
6. Respect Is A Component Of Love:
When you beg for someone to stay and love you, you are not only lowering your self-respect but also implying that you do not respect them either. Love is about respecting the differences and the decisions the other person makes so when you act like you did not hear their final decision of leaving you and keep pulling them back, you are also disrespecting them. You are saying that their opinion does not matter to you. Love comes with respect so if you cannot respect, you do not love.
7. You Lose Friends:
When you initially shared your problems with your friends and told them how he or she does not want to be with you, they told they would support you throughout the painful journey. But when you decided to run after someone who does not want you, you said two things:
Your support does not matter to me and neither does your opinion
I am nerdy enough to ignore what I have and run after what does not want to be mine
In a nutshell, you lose your friends.
8. It’s A Waste of time:
You are wasting time catching something that will never be yours when you can invest the same, valuable time in something that would pay off. You are generally defying your own importance and your capabilities by not running after more important things. Time is money and at your young age, it should be a priority for you to save it and spend it on as much essential things and businesses as possible.
9. It Makes You Look Bad:
Looking bad may be the last thing a person crazy in love cares about but it does matter and it is revealed sometime later how much. What impression do you think you will be leaving on people by constantly nagging someone who has made their decision clear to you? You will only make yourself look bad and affect your future relationships.
10. Not Your Soulmate:
Even if you thought that what you had with them was perfect and they were perfect for you, they are not because they chose to part ways. Even if you thought you had found your soulmate, you now need to realize that they did not think so. And a person who does not think of you like you think of them, how do you expect them to be your soulmate? You don’t.
Let’s assume the person you are begging to stay stays. What then? Do you think the relationship will be as good as it was when they were in it willingly? The answer is no. The relationship will be hollow without their full consent. You will never have what you want from them and the relationship. Moreover, you won’t be able to trust them because they will feel free to go out with other people since it was you who wanted them to stay and love you. They will shrug, cheat and move on again.
12. Hate Can Grow:
How ridiculously tragic would it be if they start hating you when all you were trying to do was make them love you? Instead of coming back to you, they might start hating you and you might lose the chance of being just friends with them. It is nice, sometimes, to keep an eye on the person you love with the distance of a friendship. By annoyingly running after them, you will be giving up that chance of friendship which is precious and can help you in the future.
13. You Can Go Crazy:
If they come back to you and start cheating again, you will do crazy things to make sure they are not going off track. You will lose your temper at small things and your friends might feel like you need a psychiatrist; some might even distance themselves from you. Who knows you decide to follow him one day to see where he is going? That type of crazy is not normal. Your obsession with them will affect your life greatly.
14. The Whole World Will Laugh:
Seeing your obsession with a person who does not pay any attention to you, the whole world will laugh. You will have lost your self-respect so it might be a little difficult for you to see people laugh at you but they will be there. The whole world will, your whole world, will bring you up in conversations as the psycho’ who just cannot let it go. How obsessed is he/she? Your obsessions of yours will lose you a place in the social circle.
15. The Battle Is Unwinnable:
The battle for love is meaningless as long as there is no one to fight with. You are trying to turn a no into a yes in matters of love and life which is one of the most stupid things to do. You cannot make a person love you; that is all you need to no. One more, one last reason to not run after someone who does not want you is that you will never get them. You will never earn their love. Where there is no will, there is no way.
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