If these signs are true for you, walk away.
Sometimes, it’s better to just walk away especially when it comes to love. You shouldn’t have to be worried about what people will say. You don’t have to concern yourself with the opinions of others. Sure, you were always taught that you have to fight for the things that mean the most to you. It takes a great deal of courage to actually go after and fight for the things that you want the most in life. But it takes an even greater deal of courage to just face the truth and accept that walking away might be the best option for you at this point.
Not all relationships are meant to be and that’s just a plain fact of the world. Not every relationship can be salvaged or saved. That’s why couples breakup. They realize that things just aren’t going to work out for them and they choose to find love in other places. There should be no shame involved in walking away from something that isn’t right for you. Of course, you have to give things maximum effort at first. But when it gets to the point where your best just isn’t enough anymore, then you really just have to let things go.
If you are in a relationship that currently confuses you, then this is the list for you. This can help you figure out if you’ve reached the breaking point the point wherein you just have to accept the fact that things aren’t going to work out in your favor. If a lot on the items on this list apply to your situation, then you should just cut your losses and move on to better things.
1. You haven’t gotten any returns for your efforts.
You’ve invested so much in the relationship already but you don’t feel like you’re getting anything in return. At some point, you have to acknowledge that enough is enough and that you deserve to be in a relationship that has a good balance of give and take.
2. You feel tired all of the time.
A relationship shouldn’t be bogging you down. A relationship shouldn’t be the main source of all of your stress in the world. In fact, if a relationship isn’t energizing you and building you up, then there’s something wrong. That’s not a relationship worth staying in.
3. He is reluctant to discuss the future with you.
The best kinds of relationships always have couples who aren’t afraid of talking about the future. If he’s the type of guy who doesn’t have an eye on the future, then that means he doesn’t really envision a future with you at all. So unless you’re looking for something casual and temporary, you should just find love elsewhere.
4. He leaves you feeling really desperate and dependent.
Despite the fact that you’re in a relationship with someone, you should still be able to maintain a sense of independence and stability. You can’t afford to be needy and dependent on another person. You have to be able to live your own life on your own two feet.
5. He never prioritizes you.
As the clich goes, never allow yourself to be a mere option to someone you prioritize in life. If you were in a truly loving relationship with someone, he would always choose to prioritize you over many things in life.
6. You feel like you’re getting farther apart.
No matter how hard you try, you can never feel yourselves becoming closer as a couple. In fact, it seems like all your efforts have further driven you apart as a couple.
7. You have no idea how he feels about you.
He never seems to open up to you about his feelings. He doesn’t want to be vulnerable to you because he doesn’t trust you quite that much. But in truth, he just doesn’t trust you with his feelings at all. No successful relationships are ever built on distrust.
8. He rarely ever takes you out to go anywhere.
If he were truly in love with you, he would want to show you off to the world. He wouldn’t be acting shy and timid. He wouldn’t want to hide you from the public. He wouldn’t want to isolate you or keep you cooped up in solitude. He should never be ashamed about walking in public with you.
9. He still keeps flirting with other people.
Another heavy indication that things are really toxic and you have to walk away is when he still keeps on flirting with other people. If he just can’t commit to being in a relationship with you and you alone, then you most definitely deserve better.
10. He doesn’t give you a reason to trust him.
He is always betraying your trust every chance he gets. You can never fully rely on him to deliver for you and that’s a recipe for a disastrous relationship.
11. He refuses to give you a sense of closure.
You never really know where you stand in the relationship because he won’t give you any sense of closure. He won’t give you the confidence that you need to invest yourself in the relationship because you’re worried that he will flake out on you any minute.
Wow! This is spot on! I have struggled to stay with someone for three years. Any one sided relationship eventually will break down, walking away is very painful and agonizing. But as painful as it can be, it is as liberating as it is because if someone truly is invested in you , he/she will make the effort, period!
What an article. I’ve been dating a man for the past 3 months and during the few weeks we began dating. It was rushed from the beginning. Wanting me to move in, wanting to have a baby with me, wanting to get married. I made the horrible mistake in moving in with him after convincing me to move in. I said..well, what the heck..try it out. What can happen? About a week into moving In with him. I find out he was still married. Ugh!! he explained to me why he lied and so forth. I understood the circumstances but at the end of it all. He lied. The trust was compromised and so was everything else that followed. This relationship came in full blown passionate and burned out just as fast. Now I’m living with a friend until I get my place back. I left and he didnt even tell me good bye or a sorry for anything he caused.
But, I realized that he fit most of the list on the article. Blown away.
I have never once regretted walking away from a man but I have always regretted staying too long. I always seem to forget that being in a unfulfilling relationship leaves you feeling spectacularly lonely, in a way being single never can. Mad Love
He never takes me out publicly which makes me feel uncomfortable. He tells me we will get our marriage certificate but he is not trying to ask his people to send that bachelor’s document (proof that he is not married)