There are some of us who run away from relationships/committing like cats run away from water. Why cats run away from water is a different matter but why we are so scared of falling in love can be explained. Whether it is the past that affected our POVs or something that happened in the present; here are some reasons and fears that keep both men and women from falling in love/being in relationships.
Fear of Getting Hurt:
Heartbreak is known to be one of the worst kinds of pain and the most common one. More relationships end up in nothing than being successful. The fear of getting hurt is what keeps most people from getting close to the people they like; as stupid as it sounds to not try something in fear of it not working out, it is actually the most common reason why men and women stay away from love.
What If I Get Bored?
Some people think that monogamy is some kind of wood and find it difficult to learn and apply the meaning of it in relationships. The fear of breaking someone else’s heart keeps them from finding love.
The Lack of Confidence:
Low self-esteem pitches in here. Some people fear that their partners will not like their true versions and the honeymoon phase’ of the relationship will soon pass away. It is lack of self-confidence that stops them.
What If I Hurt Them?
It is commonly known story that a guy fell in love with two girls at once but could only go with one. Some of us are running away from settling because we know our hearts; what if it falls for someone else while our mind is with the other?В В – Continue reading on the next page
Never Good Enough:
What if he is not the perfect guy?
He does not have to be the’ perfect guy; he has to be your perfect guy. Same goes for men. The fear of never finding just the right person feeds our doubts and we stay alone for longer than we should.
Fear of Family Feud:
Some people find it impossible to deal with their partner’s family let alone their own. Past family feuds and breakups are the factors that teach them never to get involved with someone with an actively interfering family.
The Real Me Isn’t Pretty:
We have all had those relationships where the beginning was better than good and it all went to shit when we showed our true colors. The fear of not being accepted for who we are kills our interest in all of it.
The Fear of Being Disturbed:
Some men and women are toxic for us; they disturb every course of our lives the minute they enter it without doing much. Although they are not right for us, they change our views and make us hate dating once and for all.
Bad Time Division:
The fear of not being able to give the S.O. enough time keeps some of us from getting an S.O. in the first place. People we love deserve good share of our time and knowing that we are bad at prioritizing makes us stay away from it.
What If History Repeats Itself?
One major fear of loving someone is the past; what if all of it comes back to you? You took the pain once and you know you cannot take it again. So you decide to not give history a chance of repeating itself again.В В – Continue reading on the next page
Why Just One?
What if I settle for one and the next day there is a line of men/women outside my door?
Not that it actually happens but plenty of fish in the syndrome’ gets the better of many people.
Why Ruin The Peace?
Relationships are too high-maintenance, according to some. They are both right and wrong, of course. You fear to lose what you love the most so they choose to keep the peace in their lives by never having anything to lose.
What of My Strong Habits?
People who are too into themselves and cannot accept change easily fear this: a random person messing up their work of life. They find it better to keep working alone than giving someone the chance to ruin it for nothing.
Fear of Being An Adult:
Relationships mean doing adult things. You would hate to enter the circle of adults after seeing the mess they go through. So the fear of becoming an adult stops you from getting into all the fuss love and relationships come with.
Too Much Work:
More relationship break than work out and even if they do not, the ones that break get your attention and make you wonder. It is too much work, you think, to try keeping something so fragile safe for such a long time.
The Most Common Fear:
The fear of commitment: the most common fear. The idea of being trapped with a guy or girl forever really gets to some of us. It makes us see the down side and ignore the fact that it is beautiful to have someone who understands us all through life.
Share your fears
We all have fears, share yours in the comments below!