The most helpful tips for long-term couples!
1. Not all arguments are worth having.
Always learn to pick your spots. Yes, you are going to have some arguments here and there but you have to understand that not all arguments are worth having. If there is an opportunity for you to avoid a pointless argument that carries no weight, then don’t be afraid to just let it go.
2. Don’t spend every single second of every single day together.
Learn to spend time apart from one another. You don’t want to get sick of each other’s company. Also, you have your individual lives to live. You can’t afford to not have a life outside of your relationship. It would be healthy for you to have nothing going on beyond your romance.
3. Always maintain open lines of communication.
Always be willing to talk to one another. You should always make sure that you maintain open lines of communication in a relationship. You have to be able to make your partner feel like you can be approached for a conversation whenever necessary.
4. Always see each other as equals.
Don’t ever see your relationship as a parasitic experiment. Not one person should be leeching off the other. Not one person should be totally dependent on the other. You both have to have equal footing in the relationship. You should both be giving just as much as you’re receiving.
5. Choose to always be generous without expectations.
Give a compliment without having to fish one for yourself. Buy your partner a present without expecting anything in return. Tell your partner that you are thinking of them without demanding a reciprocation of that gesture. Just give without expecting anything and return. That’s what love is. – Continue reading on the next page
6. Don’t be afraid to have necessary fights.
While you do have to pick your spots with fights, it’s good for you guys to have the necessary fights. Remember that conflict is always going to be inevitable but it can be organized. When you guys have your arguments, make sure that you really make an effort to hear each other out.
7. Don’t take each other for granted.
Make sure that you never take each other for granted. You don’t want to end up regretting having lost something that you never valued.
8. Don’t go to sleep mad at each other.
Fix every argument before you go to bed. Resolve every disagreement before you doze off. It’s very important that you go to sleep at night okay with each other. Talk it out and come to a compromise. You don’t always have to agree, but you have to make an effort to be on good terms with each other.
9. Be there for each other whenever problems arise.
If your partner comes to you with a problem, don’t automatically go trying to fix it. Stop trying to come up with solutions. Just be there for your partner. Let your partner know that you are willing to help any way you can. But your primary role is that of a supporter.
10. Don’t neglect your individual lives for the sake of the relationship.
Live out your personal life. Follow your dreams. Chase after your personal goals. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you should be giving up who you are as a person. You should still be able to live out the things that you are most passionate about.
11. Always be willing to make compromises.
Compromise is important in any relationship. You will never find a relationship where couples will constantly agree on everything. You have to make adjustments for each other. You have to make a few compromises here and there. you have to be willing to find a middle ground with one another to promote the harmony of a relationship.
12. Be okay with the idea that you’re not going to agree on some things.
You’re not going to be agreeing on everything and that’s okay. You can both just agree to disagree and it wouldn’t make you any less of a couple. Don’t feel compelled to find a winner in every single argument you have.
13. Own up to whenever you’re wrong.
Be accountable for your actions. Whenever you screw up, own up to it. Don’t go trying to find a scapegoat. Don’t make up any excuses. Don’t sweep your faults under a rug. Acknowledge them and move on to becoming a better and more improved human being.
14. Don’t be afraid to apologize.
Be mature about it. Say sorry whenever you screw up. We’re only human. We all make mistakes. Also, extend the same courtesy of forgiveness to your partner whenever he/she apologizes to you. Be accepting of each other’s flaws and just move on.
15. Don’t belittle or demean one another.
Never bring each other down. You should always be trying to push each other to become better people. You should always be doing your best to lift each other up.
16. Laugh often.
Humor can fix many problems in a relationship. Remember that as a couple, the ultimate goal you want for yourselves is happiness and bliss. Keep things light by laughing often. Be silly with one another. Crack a few jokes here and there.
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