Men & women are different in a lot of ways – that’s the beauty of life. We live by learning to co-exist and love each other, by getting to know about one another’s feelings, emotions, likes & dislikes. Everyone is different, and that’s where the beauty of individuality lies, making everything worth the effort.
A Reddit user, direwolfey, posted a question on AskReddit – asking the guys of Reddit what they wish girls knew about them. The person asked:
“What as a guy do you wish girls knew?”
The Responses
Men from all over Reddit came to express their feelings and wishes towards women. We simply love how expressive and open most of these comments are. Here are seventeen of the top comments:
1. zakvandyk spoke about the importance of hugs:
“That sometimes a hug or nice compliment can mean a lot. We can ride that wave for quite a while”
2. Ron_F***in_Swanson wrote about compliments:
“If you genuinely compliment a guy…don’t be upset if they don’t react the same way a woman would react to a random compliment”
“Most dudes get them so infrequently that when it does happen, there is a part of them that wonders if it was genuine…or if they are just giving them a polite and/or pity compliment”
“This often leads to an awkward/unenthusiastic response to said compliment”
“It never occurs to most guys to just say ‘Thanks!'”
3. LavaTGP spoke about playing hard to get:
“Playing ‘hard to get’ does not work for a lot of people”
4. MillerJC spoke further on compliments:
“We will remember a genuine compliment”
“f o r e v e r”
5. capt-yossarius wrote about mixed signals:
“If you’re throwing signals at a guy, and he’s not catching them, it might not be because he’s so dense he doesn’t notice them. It might be that he does see them, but his self-esteem is so low his internal dialog talks him out of believing you are interested in him in a romantic or $exual context.”
“Throwing more obvious signals doesn’t overcome that. If knowing his self-esteem is that low isn’t enough for you to lose interest, be direct. That doesn’t mean ask him if he wants to ‘have coffee’ or ‘get a drink’ with you, as either of those leave wiggle room for misinterpretation. Ask him out on a date (specifically say ‘date’), so there is no mistaking your intention.”
“The worst thing likely to happen is that he’ll say no. Which does sting, but not like spending a month throwing hints he never responds to.”
6. MaygarRodub spoke simple facts:
“When I say ‘I don’t mind’, I really mean it. If I did mind, I would say so.”
7. haankip spoke about his friends:
“I really like to hang out with my friends because I love them. Not because I don’t want to spend time with you.”
8. xydrogen wrote about communication issues:
“Making a move on a guy will nearly always be appreciated. As well as communicating issues clearly with no bullsh*t”
9. GamerFromJump talked about romantic gestures:
“Men love being the target of a romantic gesture. Many men never have been.”
10. Caladan109 spoke further on hugs:
“A good hug is always welcomed”
11. Qepperoni spoke about his perception of a woman’s perspective:
“girl: I’m dropping so many hint! Why doesn’t he get them?”
“”boy: I think girl is dropping hints but I’m not sure I want to risk my friendship and embarrassment so I’ll just ignore them.”
12. ToastyTheToastr commented on the importance of alone time:
“Sometimes mans just needs some alone time.”
“(From everyone and everything)”
13. qualitygoatsh*t wrote about first moves:
“Its ok to make the first move. Guys can be shy too. Come talk to me instead of staring at me.”
14. Additional_Breath_89 wrote about the lovely art of gift-giving, and we’re here for it:
“We like random gifts, we like random hugs, we like random signs of affection and love – sometimes just a cup of coffee in my favourite mug is enough to convince me it’s going to be a good day.”
15. Empty-Refrigerator wrote about men not being mind-readers:
“if you dont tell us you want something we honest to God wont know…”
“case and point, my Ex was sat at home and i was going to the local shop”
“‘hey, do you want anything from the shop?'”
“‘no, im good'”
“she got mad because i didnt buy her anything….”
16. SalFunction12 wants to be asked out:
“Please ask us out. It makes us feel wanted and loved”
17. bbetsill wrote about gaming:
“I am perfectly happy sitting in silence/playing video games for a few hours at a time on a weekend morning/night and it doesn’t mean I’m mad at/ignoring you/don’t want to spend tome together. Ya boy is just trying to chill”
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