Since I decided to write an article on this, I might as well share my experience regarding it. Feeling like you aren’t good enough isn’t as petty as most people would think. It isn’t something that people can just fix with an encouraging statement like, ‘You’re amazing!’. Personally, for me, it felt like holding back on a lot of opportunities out of fear that I’d only humiliate myself if I took part in them.
If you’re like me, then the feeling probably isn’t associated with a severe case of depression (Lord, help anyone for whom it might be), it’s associated with a mindset that we develop where a particular situation is played out in a specific way and the pressure that comes from it makes you stand back out of fear that you can’t do it right.
1. It’s pretty hard to comprehend.
It might sound like it’s only related to activities and sports etc. but it can be many situations which may include these as well. Anyone who’s never felt this way might be thinking that this isn’t a big deal and that the person should just be more confident or something. I am genuinely happy for anyone who has never felt that way but the truth is that you have no idea what it’s like. I guess I can’t really explain it that well in words so people might feel like it’s petty but honestly, no one can ever explain it in words that would clearly indicate how they’re feeling because no such words have been introduced yet. – Continue reading on the next page
What happened with me was basically that I was still in school at the time and my friends and I just got into the phase where we wanted everything around us to be ‘cool’. It started off harmlessly but it soon escalated and I found myself unable to keep up with everyone else which made me feel, you guessed it, not good enough. It sounds like a very childish and immature thing but in that moment, it really did shatter my self-confidence because I couldn’t be as ‘cool’ as they were.
2. It makes you live in denial and with self-doubt.
I used to tell myself that it was all in my head and that it was just kids being kids but nowadays, I see adults who are going through the exact same thing. It’s real and it’s sad. I’m fine now, sure, but I’ve actually felt what you do and whether it was on a smaller scale or not, I understand. Believe it or not, I didn’t go back to being fine again by hearing people telling me that I was amazing or anything. I went back to being fine by actually expressing how I felt.
Like I said, there are no words to express it but some words do come close to how it feels and I used all of them! I confided in my best friend and she listened to all of it. I was blessed to have someone like her with me because I always felt like if I ever did confide in someone else, they wouldn’t get it since even I didn’t fully understand it either. However, I poured my heart out and let everything that I did get understood out in words that could be used to explain it. It helped me.В – Continue reading on the next page
3. There is help and a way out of all of this.
You don’t have to feel like you’re not good enough. No one is perfect, everyone has their flaws but the flaws really don’t determine whether we’re good enough or not. If you’re afraid to stand on a platform where you have to be in front of many people whom you won’t know and fear that you might mess it all up or if you feel like there’s no point in trying something new since you can already predict it going into flames, just remember that messing up is what makes us humans in the first place. It’s alright to slip every now and then, it won’t leave a scar and you will get right back up again.
4. Everyone has this feeling at some point in their lives.
This feeling isn’t limited to any gender, age or situation. You might be someone who’s frustrated for not getting the love of their life even though you’re reaching 30. You might be someone who’s starting out for a new job and have no idea how your life went from being a kid growing up in a small town to here. It can literally be anything which harms your self-esteem.
If you can’t fully comprehend this feeling because it seems like it’s ‘not that big of a deal’, then the first thing you should do is to confront this feeling once and for all. Are you good enough or are you not? If you feel like you aren’t, then realise that the only way you’ll get better is to be vocal about it with someone, whoever you like, just make sure that it’s someone whom you know will understand it to at least some degree.
Bottom line, don’t disregard it. Face it and then overcome it.
I’m listening, talk to me
Do you still think you’re not good enough for someone? Think again! Talk to me, I’ll listen! Tell me how you feel in the comments down below!