Are they ready to meet the parents?
It can be a very difficult decision to make just because of how significant a step this is in any relationship. And that’s what relationships are really made of a series of steps and phases that can’t be rushed or manufactured inorganically. All the best and strongest couples understand the importance of having to go through the necessary steps in a relationship in order for them to really build their love in the best way possible. They know that they can’t afford to rush through any process because that could potentially backfire on them in the long run. They know that love is something that has to flow naturally it’s something that has to be savored. It can’t be something that’s just devoured all in one go. Everything has its own place in its own time.
Which brings us to this common step that strong relationships usually have to take the introduction to the parents and family. It’s a big decision and it’s not something that anyone in a relationship should be taking lightly. As you get deeper and deeper into a romance, and you fall even more in love with someone, you will start to get ideas. You are going to be forced to think about your future together and all the responsibilities that come with that fantasy. One of those responsibilities is having to integrate one another into each of your social lives. You are both eventually going to have to expose each other to your respective social circles. It gets to a point wherein you are going to have to take your partner home to meet your parents, and you don’t want to go through this step in a liberal manner.
For one, you don’t want to end up as that person who is constantly bringing failed relationship experiments home to meet the parents. When you bring someone home to meet your folks, you want to make sure that this is actually a person with whom you have real potential of building a strong relationship with. You don’t want to bring home someone you’ve just met only to break up with that person a few weeks later. It gives off a bad impression. According to relationship experts, the most ideal time to bring a partner home to meet the parents would be if you are within 6-12 months in the relationship. It’s a long enough time period for you to really establish a kind of rhythm and rapport with one another; but it’s also not too long of a time period wherein you make your comfortable feel like you’re ashamed to bring them home.
As per the advice of these relationship experts, the initial three months of a relationship should be devoted entirely to getting to know one another. During this phase, there should be no external pressures or distractions. This is a process that has to be untainted by the outside world. The first three months of the relationship have to be relationship-centric. It’s a period for two people to really feel one another out to try and figure out if there’s really a future there. And the next two or three months of the relationship are for the other aspects of the relationship. This is where you really find out if your synergy is sustainable.
This is usually where the excitement and exhilaration of a new relationship starts to die down, and you have to confront the realities of really being together. If you survive these next months, then you can start thinking about bringing each other’s families into the picture. Every couple is different and so it can be difficult to give a one size fits all kind of advice to couples. But generally speaking, there are some key guiding principles that you might want to consider before you come to a decision on bringing your partner home to meet your folks.
Here are 3 significant signs that your partner is ready to meet your folks according to dating experts:
1. Your partner has already introduced you to their circle of friends.
One good sign that your partner is ready for social circle integrations is if they’ve already started to do so with their friends. It shows that they’re really ready to integrate you into their lives by exposing you to their world of friendships.
2. You get the sense that they’ve really committed themselves to you.
Commitment is a huge deal. You have to make sure that your partner is really committed to you before you bring them home to meet the rents. If they manage to erase all doubt about commitment from your mind, then you can bring them home.
3. Your partner has already introduced you to their parents.
If you’ve met their parents, then it’s time for them to meet yours. Obviously, they’ve taken the initiative to take the next step in the relationship and you have to follow suit.
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