First, let’s talk about what you shouldn’t text your husband or wife. These are messages that don’t make them feel closer, romantic, or excited. In fact, these common types of texts might even make your spouse feel less interested in you.
Now, let’s move on to some examples of what you should avoid texting your spouse. These messages won’t help you build a stronger bond or create positive feelings between you two. Instead, we’ll explore what kind of texts can actually bring you closer and enhance your connection.
Texting Mistake 1: The Bossy Text
It’s okay to ask your spouse for help. Marriage means working together as a team. But if you keep asking too much, you could become a “texting boss.” To make your relationship better, give them space and don’t send too many texts. It’s attractive to be independent in a relationship. Instead of always asking for help, try doing things on your own sometimes, even small things.
Texting Mistake 2: The Overcritical Text
Sending texts like “You’re always late” or “You don’t love me” or “You’re always playing games” can lead to trouble. These messages make things worse in your relationship. It’s important to help and support your spouse, but sometimes we do it the wrong way. Criticizing or making them feel small doesn’t help them improve. Studies have found that telling someone they’re not valuable can make them believe it’s true. Remember, even small changes in how you talk to your spouse can have a big impact on your relationship.
Texting Mistake 3: The Argumentative Text
Another way to become a “texting terrorist” is by constantly starting arguments with your spouse over text messages. While it might seem easier to argue through texts, we strongly advise against it. Why? Because text messages can often be misunderstood, leading to bigger fights. Plus, you can’t use body language to calm things down. So, when you’re tempted to bring up a difficult topic via text, hold off. Wait for the right time and place for a proper face-to-face discussion.
Now, let’s shift our focus to text messages that you ought to be sending to your spouse.
1. The Imagine Text
Texting can be a fun way to make your partner imagine different things. You can create various feelings with just a few words in a text. An “imagine” text is a great example of this. Let me give you an example: you could say, “Can you think about how great it will be when we’re together? I can’t wait to hold you close tonight.” It might sound a little silly when I say it like that, but trust me, your partner will probably like receiving this kind of message. You can adjust the message to fit different situations and use your imagination with the “imagine” text.
2. The Gratitude Text
It’s easy to forget why you married your husband or wife, especially if it’s been a while. The gratitude text helps remind your spouse that you value them in a special way. For instance, you could say, “I don’t say it often, but I really appreciate how you’re always there for me when I need support. That’s one of the reasons I love you.” You can adjust the message to fit your situation and share something you truly appreciate about your spouse.
3. The Deep Memory Text
This type of text message aims to make your spouse recall a special moment from the past and experience it again. Reminding them of nostalgic memories can increase their attraction to you and encourage the creation of more cherished moments together. For example, “Do you recall our trip to the beach last summer? I can still picture how happy you looked in your favorite sun hat.” You can change the message to fit your own memories. The deep memory text is fun because you can talk about good times and make your bond stronger.
Communication can work wonders in a marriage. Have you found these text messages helpful? Share your thoughts and any other tips you have in the comments below.
