I’ve been in the friendzone, it wasn’t fun. Here’s what you need to do to get out of it.
Ah, the friend zone. That deep unfortunate hole in relationships that a lot of unlucky souls happen to find themselves in and are trying so hard to desperately escape. It can be very difficult when you develop strong feelings for a guy who only sees you as a friend. You so deeply want to be in a relationship with his person, but you also don’t want to risk destroying your great friendship. What else are you supposed to do? How can you get out of this unfortunate predicament that you have found yourself in?
Okay, so let’s review the facts of the case first before we act on anything. You meet a really nice guy that you feel you have a genuine connection with. You hit it off right away and you feel really comfortable with each other. Your conversations are always so fluid, natural, and unforced. You have a rapport about you that you don’t have with too many other people much less boys you’re actually interested in. You genuinely have a good time whenever the two of you are together, and it feels like there’s some serious potential for the two of you to be more than just friends.
You go on lunch and dinner dates together. You have coffee all too often. You watch movies together. You hang out at each other’s apartments. You’re practically doing the things that all happy couples do together except of course the most intimate aspects of a relationship. And those are the most important parts. You spend so much time with one another, and with every second that you share together, your admiration for him grows more and more. You learn to appreciate him as someone who is more than just a friend in your life and you can’t help but think of all of the possibilities. You have feelings for him and they’re practically undeniable at this point; almost uncontainable even.
You hope and pray to the gods of love that he feels the same way about you. You sit and you wait for him to make the moves on you to eventually open himself up to you. But it looks like it’s going nowhere. It looks like he isn’t interested after all. He isn’t really making an effort with you and perhaps it’s because he’s not interested. You start to grow desperate and sad because of the situation that you’ve found yourself in. Your relationship is in a really good place, but it stings you to know that it’s never going to be more than what it is now. You want to really move things up to the next level but you don’t exactly know how you’re supposed to go about it.
It doesn’t make sense to you. You practically have an emotional bond and connection with one another that a lot of official couples can’t even compete with. So why doesn’t he want to make a move and take things to the next level? What are you supposed to do?
You are deep in the friend zone and you don’t want to stay there forever. You want to take action. You want to do something. If he’s not going to make a move, then you’ve decided that you want to take matters into your own hands. You don’t want to just another friend in his eyes. You want something more. You want to be the one to him. And this is where you really have to step up your game. You have to be able to establish a sense of sensuality and intimacy on top of your friendship so that you put yourself in the position to take things to the next level. Here are 3 things you need to do to get out of the friend zone:
1. You need to put more effort into being sensual with him.
And you don’t have to be overly aggressive with it too. To establish a sense of sensuality with him, all it takes is a few minor adjustments to the way you conduct yourself around him. A lot of these adjustments will center around your body movements and choice of language. You can be more touchy with him. You can stare into his eyes more. You can drop subtle hints of sensuality with your choice of words.
2. You need to build on your sex appeal.
This is where you really need to get in touch with your physical sex appeal. Even minor changes in your appearance can do the trick. Stop portraying yourself as an innocent lady friend that she has. Show him that you can offer him something that he desperately wants but didn’t know he needed.
3. Don’t make yourself too available.
Mystery is always good. Stop making him feel like the priority in your life. Make him miss you. Make him work for you. Remember that men like the thrill of the chase. They like the challenge of having to win over their women. And if you make him feel like he has to work for you, then he is going to do so enthusiastically.
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