You’re going to need to be brave if you really want to fall in love. I had to learn the hard way that I can’t allow myself to act defensively whenever my partner accuses me of coming up short in the relationship. At first, I always thought that I was so prim and proper when I was in love. I always assumed that I was being the perfect girlfriend to my partner.
But the truth is that I was just scared. I wasn’t brave enough to come to terms with the fact that I was indeed less than perfect. And the reason I was scared was that I used to think that imperfection would mean losing out on love.
But that is all wrong. You can never allow yourself to be scared of confronting your own weaknesses. You can never be scared of coming to terms with the truth when it comes to love and relationships. You must always be willing to face reality. And that’s exactly what this article is going to force you to do right now. If you are genuinely interested in falling in love, then you need to face these 3 truths about it.
1. Unreasonable expectations are premeditated fights and disappointments.
It’s always fine to have your share of expectations whenever you first get into a relationship with someone. When you have expectations and you communicate them to your partner, then you are essentially keeping each other in check. You are always staying on the same page.
But if you have unreasonable expectations that you hide from your partner, then you are essentially setting yourself up for disappointment. You are only going to be instigating fights with your partner before you even start the relationship.
2. We all want to feel loved and cared for by someone else.
You don’t have to keep acting as you hate it whenever your partner is trying to baby you. You LOVE being loved. EVERYONE loves to be loved. Just stop denying it. No one is going to think that you are some kind of codependent loser if you want to feel love and care from your partner.
No one is going to blame you for craving your partner’s affections. It’s perfectly natural for you to want to experience the love that your partner has for you. You don’t have to keep putting up this false image of yourself as someone who doesn’t need your partner’s affection or intimacy.
3. We often blame our partners for our own insecurities.
You are only human and so naturally, you are going to have your fair share of insecurities. However, if you fail to maintain a sense of self-awareness; if you fail to come to terms with your insecurities, you are going to want to project them to the nearest available target: your partner. You will start to blame your partner for all of your weaknesses because you are too afraid to come to terms with your own vulnerability.
You always want to see yourself as perfect and so any imperfection in your life must be attributed to your partner instead. This can be very detrimental to any kind of relationship and you need to stop that if you don’t want to drive your partner away.
If you find that you are guilty of a lot of these less-than-perfect truths, then that’s fine. You’re only human after all. At least you have the self-awareness to realize your mistakes so that you can learn from them. You just have to be able to recognize what you are doing in your relationship that isn’t necessarily working. After that, you have to actually commit to changing these things about yourself and your partner. You have to do whatever it takes to become better. When left unaddressed, these things could potentially wreak havoc on your entire relationship.
If required, don’t be afraid to ask for help from more experienced people or licensed professionals. Know that just because you have problems in your relationship doesn’t mean you have to face it alone. And acknowledging that you need help isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of humility and bravery.
At the end of the day, love is always something that you have to work hard for. Love is something that you have to fight for. And the road isn’t going to be easy. It’s going to be filled with a lot of potholes, hurdles, and even traps. But you and your partner must always find a way to persevere. You must always find a way to break through the glass ceilings that have been set in place for you.
Remember that you are in full control of your relationship and that things don’t have to end if you don’t let them.