Cheating can seriously harm a committed relationship. It often leads to breakups and causes various problems for the person who was cheated on, including feeling bad about themselves and dealing with practical issues. After cheating, the relationship changes, even before it’s discovered. Some people can forgive, but it still affects all relationships.
Among men and women, men are more likely to cheat on their long-term partners. Here are reasons why different types of men cheat and advice on spotting the signs of cheating.
Which 3 Types Of Men Have Affairs?
Does every single man cheat? Or would they all cheat if they had the chance? Based on a survey about cheating in the USA, more married men than married women cheat, but the difference isn’t huge: 20% of men and 13% of women admitted to having affairs. Even if some men don’t admit it, not all men cheat.
Only three kinds of men have affairs: those who feel unloved and fear leaving their wives, self-absorbed people, and guys who aren’t mature and want to be with others too. It’s more complex, though, so let’s look closer at these three types of men who cheat.
1. The Neglected Coward
This usually happens when he’s married but feels distant from his wife. He cheats instead of trying to make things better or ending the relationship.
Life isn’t always simple, and problems in a relationship aren’t just one person’s fault. But he makes a hurtful choice by cheating instead of finding better solutions.
Here’s what happens: Sometimes, things change in a marriage, and the husband and wife become distant. The husband might feel his wife isn’t as caring as before and might think she doesn’t care about his feelings. This makes him unhappy, and he might think about being with someone else. He looks for attention and wants to feel important, so he cheats instead of talking to his wife or ending the relationship. If he’s caught, the relationship often ends, and even if they stay together, things might not be the same.
This really hurts his wife and breaks her trust. It’s like giving up on the marriage without talking to her, and that’s not fair. The husband’s actions can make the relationship and trust between them suffer.
2. The Opportunistic Narcissist
Narcissists are people who care only about themselves and don’t think others matter. They want attention and things, and they get mad when they don’t get what they want. They hurt others without caring and don’t see the problem.
For them, love and intimacy are separate. They can be intimate without feelings and don’t see why cheating hurts their partner. Cheating is easy for them because they don’t care about others’ feelings. They cheat with many people and use them for attention.
They know cheating is wrong but enjoy the thrill of it. They like the risk of getting caught. They don’t care about the consequences.
3. The Immature Mama’s Boy
This type of cheater thinks of his partner as a mom, and he’s not good at solving problems. He wants two things: a comfortable relationship at home and an exciting affair outside. He acts like a teenager who wants freedom but still wants help at home.
He might say he loves his partner but really likes what he gets from them. Cheating feels exciting because he’s breaking the rules. He doesn’t like his normal life, especially if his partner doesn’t understand him. Ignoring the red flags in a relationship can lead to heartache down the line. He may convince himself that his partner will change or that things will get better, but the underlying issues often remain unresolved. It’s essential to recognize these warning signs early on to avoid getting trapped in a cycle of disappointment.
If his partner doesn’t desire intimacy as much, he might cheat instead of talking about it. He separates love and intimacy, thinking his partner is for love and the affair partner is intimate. He’s not happy with his intimacy at home and finds the affair partner more interesting.
He sees the affair partner as exciting and glamorous, while he sees his partner at home as less attractive and interesting. He likes the excitement of the affair.
Curious to hear your thoughts! Share your views and experiences on why men cheat in the comments below.
Well as for my relationship my partner is all of those but the Mama’s boy but I don’t understand why and how they can do it to the person they say they love and won’t leave them ?
This was my ex I used to feel so nervous if he didn’t answer my phone calls or texts I caught him doing stuff aswell I found it so hard to leave this was in 2012 reading your comment took me right back I
Eventually ended it the relief I felt was unbelievable I blocked him from everything and stayed away from anywhere he would go I know it’s very hard but. You deserve so much better🥰
This article is patently a woman’s point of view. Why not say “which type of people have affairs;” this applies to women also; certainly the first 2 categories in any case.
Never let a horny hungry man leave the house there is always a h*e with a sandwich around the corner!
because they want the cake and eat it too
My husband of 16 years has tested us. He has messaged girls. Chatted to them online. He had absolutely no idea why he did it and still to this day he looks at women in instagram. But is always attentive to me and tells me he adores and loves me and I’m his world. It still hurts to this day as he says he had no reason to do it.
Im so sorry Megan. He needs professional help. I pray that this situation will change in him after help. I will pray for your marriage.
Hey Megan
I’m currently having the same situation with my partner. Did your husband ever physically cheat or just online? will it ever get better?
i love how are bunch of woman are explaining why men do things. you might as well had a rabbit write it’s opinion. this is so stupid. a husband cheats for non of these reasons, so stop listening to stupidity.
my partner of 30 yes used to cheat when I was at work he is a narrative but on the other side of him he very intelligent and caring has a good heart always helping people what do I do stay or leave any can give me advice pls
mine said she was just more convenient because she lived up the road. we had been together for 8 years and a child together. how can someone justify it especially saying she was more convenient. to break my heart and trust because she lived close
I believe some men are cheating on their wife not because they like it but because their friends are doing it. They see it as normal thing
i need ways to apologise to my boyfriend whom i have deeply hurt
Love and relatuonship is a two way traffic. Before one decides to be involved in another relationship away from the first established one, there must be reasons that triggered the move. This has nothing to do with only men. Most women enjoy sex outside their marriage. Why say so? The writer of this article has solely based facts on men cheating. My question is, do men cheat with their fellow men or they cheat with women? And if they cheat woth women, couls it be possible that they sre married women as well?
Lets think out of the box and bring every thing to light.
when truw love gades away from couples, whether you try to communicate it out with no positive results, the outcome is viseversa.