3 Ways You Need To Grow Before You Get Into A New Relationship
Have you given yourself enough time to grow?
If you happen to be single and ready to mingle, you are bound to have so much romantic energy inside of you; and this is the kind of energy that is just longing to be released unto another person. There is so much love inside of you and you want to do whatever you can to find that one person with whom you can share that love. Yes. That’s normal. After all, there is no feeling that matches that of falling in love with someone. And truthfully, human beings are already predisposed to channeling their love into something real and productive. We all need to be able to find an outlet for our love and passion. It’s part of what makes life worthwhile. However, we must also realize that we can’t rush love. We can’t force love to manifest itself in our lives whenever we want. We have to be patient and we must always learn to be more accepting of what fate has planned for us. And as difficult as it might be, considering that you are feeling so restless at this point, you need to stay strong. You need to continue being patient. And perhaps, in the meantime, you can take the opportunity to just focus all of your energies into becoming a better person overall.
When you are single, you are given the grand opportunity and freedom to grow as an individual outside of a relationship. You get the chance to really focus on yourself and your own strengths and weaknesses. You get the chance to really commit to building yourself up to be the person you’ve always envisioned yourself to be and you can do so selfishly without having to think about anyone else for the moment.
You don’t want to just waltz into a new relationship as a raw and young individual who hasn’t experienced substantial growth as of late especially if you’re still the same person that you were in your last relationship. It would be a humongous mistake for you to just cast the blame on other people for having failed relationships. Yes, it’s possible for one side to be more at fault than the other. But you shouldn’t trick yourself into thinking that your hands are clean either. You can’t separate yourself from the flawed relationship that you were in. You need to be able to take responsibility of everything that took place in that relationship in order for you to grow from it. It’s not really about shaming yourself or finding something to make you feel bad about; far from it. This is about pointing out potential points of weakness and working on them until you’re no longer vulnerable in those aspects anymore. It’s about really owning up to every single aspect of who you are whether good or bad. It’s about owning up to what you did right and what you did wrong and learning from these things to ensure that you have a bright future ahead of you. One way that you can look at being critical of yourself in your failed relationships is seeing it as a form of self-love and self-care. You are making sure that you are building up the parts of yourself that can be improved upon. It’s always great when you are able to spot out your vulnerabilities and insecurities, and use these as starting points for your road to growth.
Never underestimate the significance of individual growth; no matter how small it may be. Growth is always something that you initiate for yourself and no one else can bring that growth about for you. It’s no something that you can just belittle or shrug off. It’s not something that you should deem unimportant. Every day is an opportunity for growth. And now that you’re still single, it’s essential for you to make sure that you continue to grow and develop as an individual. When you do so, you are giving yourself a better shot at making your future relationships work.
1. Discover the things that are most important to you in this life.
Do a lot of self-discovery and soul searching. In order for you to find meaning and fulfilment in your relationships, you have to be able to figure out what you really want out of love and life in general. And for you to know what you really want, you have to take a deep look into who you really are and what makes you tick as an individual. And once you gain a better understanding of what you want, the easier it will be for you to spot the kind of relationships that are actually worth your time.
2. Understand and appreciate the things that motivate and inspire you.
We are all creatures of habit. As human beings we all like to settle into a routine to some extent. We find comfort in the familiar. However, sometimes, our habits can actually be destroying us. And that’s why we have to grow to understand the things that are actually just destructive in our lives; and we have to rid ourselves of these things. We have to focus all of our energy into the things that inspire and motivate us to be better people.
3. Pursue your efforts.
A lot of people say pursue your passion and you will be happy. But that’s not always the case. What you should really do is pursue your efforts. Pursue the things that you’re good at. Just because you’re passionate about something doesn’t mean that it’s meant for you. But when you grow comfortable in the things where you exert most of your efforts in, then you will end up feeling more fulfilled and productive.
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