Your ex is your ex for a reason.
Okay. There is just no denying the significant pain that one experiences after going through a breakup or a separation. A person’s mind will be practically consumed with thoughts of what if and where do we go from here up until eventually, the mind tires itself out. While both parties in a breakup can suffer, there are some very common cases wherein one party suffers much more significantly than the other. If in this case, you are that person who seems to be taking the breakup in a worse manner, then you need to be paying attention.
For now, you probably just want to get things back to the way they were. You think that there is a way for you to mend whatever wounds need mending. You think that there is a way you can heal everything that’s been broken in your relationship. You will do whatever it takes to salvage what was lost or what has been broken. This may mean that you will want to maintain ties of communication with your ex because you hope you can win them back with your words.
But by now, you should really know that the best and most effective way to move on from an ex is to do exactly the opposite of what you’re doing. The best way to move on and get over is to just stop all forms of communication with your ex.
So yes, you might be feeling lots of pain, disappointment, and anguish at the moment, but maintaining ties of communication with your ex is not the best way to recover. You have to be able to cut off your ex completely from your life. As difficult as it is to accept this advice, it’s the plain truth. And the sooner that you follow this advice, the easier it will be for you. You may be acting defensive at the moment, because you’re still so set on the idea of maintaining talks with your ex. You try to come up with logical reasons as to why it’s a good idea to do so. But you have to be able to trust that none of those reasons are ever going to be good enough. You are going to have to let go of your ex completely. The only acceptable reason for you to stay in contact with your ex is if you happen to have kids together. But otherwise, make sure that your goodbyes are real and not half-baked.
So if you’re still not convinced, then maybe you’re going to have to read on until the end of this article. Highlighted here will be a few key points as to why it’s absolutely imperative for you to just stop communications with your ex if you’re trying to get over them. Hopefully, by the end of this article, you will have gained a better perspective on things and you would stop all of this foolishness. Sometimes, you just need some good old sense to be knocked into you. Here are 4 basic reasons as to why it’s not a good idea to still be talking with your ex even after the breakup.
1. Your wounds won’t heal when you stay in contact with the person who gave them to you.
How could you ever expect to heal your wounds if you just allow them to keep reopening? That’s essentially what you’re doing by always trying to maintain contact with your ex. You have to remember that your ex is the one who gave you emotional scars by breaking up with you. You can’t expect those scars to heal if you keep staying in contact with one another. You need to learn how to break away if you really want to recover.
2. You need to allot space for new energy to breathe new life into you.
If you let your space take residence inside of your heart, then you are essentially not freeing up space for new energy to enter your system. Remember that the best way to accept new energy into your life is to let go of all the negative energy that has been weighing you down since the past. Out with the old and in with the new, as they say.
3. You will only delude yourself into fantastical thinking.
It’s over. The sooner you accept that fact, the easier it will be for you to move on to other things in your life. If you keep trying to maintain that hope that things are eventually going to work themselves out, then you are essentially deluding yourself. You are only leading yourself on and you can’t win in this scenario.
4. You will find it more difficult to let go of the mistakes of the past.
The past has its place in the past. You have to learn how to accept the reality of the present, no matter how unfortunate the scenario may be. And you have to keep an eye for the future. Take your experiences from the past and learn from them to emerge into a brighter and better future for yourself.
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