It’s only a myth that a man is ALWAYS going to be in the mood for sex just because he no longer finds his attractive or fun. As difficult as it might be to believe, a man isn’t just a purely sexual animal with no other things in mind.
And to add to that, a man’s reasons for wanting to have sex with someone isn’t just always going to he purely physical. There are so many women out there who are concerned about why their husbands don’t seem interested in having sex with them anymore.
And you might be one of those women as well. You might think that your husband no longer finds you attractive. You might believe that your man just doesn’t see you as beautiful or sexy. You might think you’re getting fat and that’s why he doesn’t make moves on you anymore.
Well, that isn’t always the case. There are plenty of possible reasons as to why a guy wouldn’t want to sleep with his girl. Open your mind. The answer might be staring you right in the face and you don’t even see it. Here are a few of those not so obvious reasons:
1. He is way too engrossed in his work and career.
Sometimes, a man can just get lost in his professional life to the point that it becomes the outlet for all of his emotional energy. And whenever that happens, there might not be enough left for your relationship in the end. He might be getting a natural high from the many strides that he is making in the office.
He can simulate the highs that come from orgasms with promotions, bonuses, incomes, and professional accomplishments. If you want to win him back and divert his attention from work a little bit, then you need to sit down and talk to him. Let him know that sex is an important aspect of your relationship.
Make sure he understands that you respect his need to succeed in his career. But also point out that he can’t completely neglect his responsibilities in your relationship as well. You should both make an effort to actually carve time out of your schedule for yourselves AND your relationship.
2. He is tired of always being the initiator.
Have you ever thought about being the initiator when it comes to sex? You might be feeling all stressed out about your man no longer initiating the sexual activities with you. But maybe he’s just tired of always being the initiator.
Maybe there have been times in the past wherein he wanted to have sex with you and you just rejected him because you were tired or you were distracted. That can harm his ego and make him feel hurt even when he understands that your reasons are justifiable. But still, his pride has been hit.
And that’s why he no longer wants to be the sole initiator. To solve this, try being the one who makes a move on your guy. Let him know that you want him just as much as he wants you. Try to be the one who is willing to work for the physical intimacy in your relationship this time.
3. He might be insecure and anxious about his performance.
Sometimes, a man can suffer from either early ejaculation or delayed ejaculation. Sometimes, a man can suffer from erectile dysfunction. Sometimes, a man might be dealing with certain issues surrounding his performance in the bedroom.
And these issues might be diminishing his confidence to the point that he is shy about wanting to have sex with you. You have to take into consideration that men might actually consider sex to be a big deal. And if he can’t live up to expectations, he might think it better to just not take part in it in the first place.
If this is the case, you need to let him know that he shouldn’t be so insecure. You need to make him feel safe and secure about actually getting intimate with you.
4. He has decreasing libido levels.
And there will be times wherein a man will just have lower libido levels. Libido in the body is primarily responsible for increasing a person’s sexual desires. And if his biology just isn’t cooperating with him, then that might be an issue. It’s not that he doesn’t want to have sex with you per se.
He might just not be interested in sex at all because of his lowered libido levels. To solve this, try to talk to him about your sexual needs and feelings. And also, open up to the possibility of him seeing a specialist about it if it really bothers you.