If you are worried that you might never find that one guy who is going to commit to being with you for the rest of your lives, then you are joining a really big club. However, you don’t always have to be a hopeless romantic. You can always do something to improve your chances in love and romance.
Yes, there are a lot of men out there who are just downright too immature to actually commit to a person. But you must also consider the possibility that you aren’t doing your part in presenting yourself as a worthy candidate for his commitment as well.
Just because you have trouble finding men to commit to you doesn’t mean that you are out there. Maybe the problem is with you and that’s why it’s always important that you maintain a sense of introspection and self-reflection.
You want to make sure that you aren’t actually doing anything that might diminish your chances at finding a man who would be willing to take you seriously. You want to make sure that you don’t have any bad habits that are stymying the progress of your love life.
Remember that ultimately, a man is going to want to be with a woman who has a good character. And your character is going to be defined by the many habits that you practice day in and day out.
If you find that you are guilty of a lot of the things that are listed on here, then you need to make an adjustment as soon as possible. Here are a few bad habits that you would want to avoid if you really want a man to commit to you.
1. You blame men for all of the problems in your relationships.
You shouldn’t really be so quick to blame men for all the problems that you might have in your relationships with them. You need to humble yourself and acknowledge that you might actually be at fault as a participant in a relationship. No man is ever going to want to commit to a woman who is too proud to admit that she doesn’t make mistakes in the relationship.
2. You ignore the red flags early on.
Sometimes, the red flags are going to be there as clear as day very early in the relationship. And because of the desperation that you feel, you just ignore them. You just choose to not acknowledge them.
You just decide to think that things are all fine and dandy in the relationship. No man will want to commit to you if you just keep conducting yourself in a naïve and aloof manner in your relationships. You won’t really be a woman he can rely on in that sense.
3. You don’t really talk about expectations in your relationship.
Nothing sucks more than being in a long-term relationship with a guy only to find out once you’re really deep into it that you don’t even want the same things. It’s important that you are always able to talk about your expectations early in a relationship so that you don’t get blindsided once you’re really deep in it.
4. You force men into committing to you way too quickly.
You should never force a man into committing to you so early in the relationship. Remember that commitment isn’t something that you can force. It’s not something that you can just choose to rush.
Commitment is something that he needs to decide on intrinsically. If you try to force the issue by pressuring him into it, then that’s going to be a big red flag for him. And you’re only going to end up driving him away.
5. You avoid talking to him about exclusivity in the relationship.
One of the best ways to have a man cheat on you is to not define the parameters in a relationship. You are essentially letting him off the hook if you just carry on in a “relationship” with him without actually defining it. You want him to know what you expect out of him so that he doesn’t do anything that you wouldn’t approve of.
6. You target men who aren’t ready for commitment.
Sometimes, you are only shooting yourself in the foot if you choose men who are wrong for you. You don’t want to be targeting men who aren’t built for commitment in the first place.
There are a lot of men out there who need some growing up to do before they can be in a real committed relationship. You are only asking for disappointment if you actually try to target these men. Remember that it’s a long shot that you would be able to change their noncommittal ways and philosophies.