You waited for a while before you actually slept with your partner. You stayed patient. You didn’t give yourself right away. Of course, you were attracted to him. But you didn’t give in to temptations. You managed to resist and you made him wait a while. You really wanted to get to know him first and you wanted him to get to know you as well. You wanted to build trust in your relationship. And that’s a good thing, right?
Well, not exactly. After you guys slept with one another for the first time, you noticed that he started becoming more distant to you. You noticed that he was pulling away a little bit. Maybe he might have even vanished from your life completely. And now you’re feeling lost. You’re upset. You don’t know what to do or why things turned out the way that they did. You don’t know what you could have done wrong.
IF you are like the vast majority of women in this world, then you would probably be confused about everything that has taken place. You don’t know why it happened to you and you don’t know what you can do to prevent this kind of thing from ever happening again. You are really hurt and you are going through a lot of pain. You start to build walls around yourself so that you can protect your heart. You don’t want to be opening yourself up to that kind of pain anymore. You want to protect yourself.
But you don’t typically allow yourself to be that kind of woman. You know that love is always going to require courage. You know that love is always going to be worth the risk. But still, the threat remains. And that’s what this article is for. It aims to give you a better perspective on the matter so that you aren’t going to be kept in the dark.
This article is going to give you all of the answers that you need. The better understanding you have o the situation, then the better you will be able to handle it.
1. All he really wanted was just to be physical after all.
Some men just really want the fun and none of the other aspects of a relationship. And when you give them what they want, they just run off because they want nothing else.
2. His lust for you blinded him to the parts that he didn’t like.
He has really wanted to be physical with you for the longest time now. But his lust for you was blinding him to parts of you that he wouldn’t like. And being physical with him somehow opened his eyes.
3. You just don’t have the chemistry that he was looking for.
It may be unfortunate but it happens. You aren’t always going to be a perfect match in the sack.
4. He’s afraid of how fast things might be going.
Maybe even though you’ve waited for quite a while, he still things as going really fast and it concerns him.
You have to know this. You have power over men. And a lot of that power stems from your energy. There are plenty of men who will do whatever it takes to be with you. And that is the power that you can’t just misuse. If you are using intimacy as some kind of tool to lure him into a relationship with you, then you should expect him to act differently once you finally give it to him. Being intimate in a relationship is healthy and important, yes. However, it shouldn’t be what you are building your entire relationship on. Men understand that you have this power over them. And they will be willing participants so as long as you give them what they want.
You just have to make sure that you know what YOU want from relationships and from love. Always be upfront about your needs and expectations – and make sure that he is being honest in the same way. That’s the only way that the two of you are going to be on the same page. Tell him that you want something more than just physical attraction – and if he doesn’t feel the same way, then you need to break yourself off from him right away.