Whenever you are in a strong and stable relationship with a person, you know that you have something great right? Well, that isn’t always going to be the case.
Even though you might think that you and your partner are so in love with one another doesn’t necessarily mean that your relationship is okay.
Sometimes, you can be in a relationship with someone who loves you and that person can still leave you. And that’s the kind of abandonment that really hurts. It hurts because you know that you have love within your grasp and still you let it slip away.
Why would someone who loves you still find a way to abandon you? Why would a person so willingly walk away from love? Well, the truth is that relationships are just inherently difficult.
Love alone isn’t going to be enough to make a relationship work. And to believe otherwise would be very naïve and ignorant. There are many facets of a relationship that requires a person’s time and attention. And if even just one of those things is lagging behind, then the entire relationship is potentially placed in jeopardy.
It’s always unfortunate whenever a breakup takes place but they still do happen. In fact, they happen a lot. It’s especially a lot more painful if you happen to be the one who gets broken up with.
And while it might be painful for the two of you to be ending a relationship, they are always better off for being the one to call it quits. They are the ones who are able to anticipate the breakup and so they are able to prepare themselves for it.
But if you get broken up with so suddenly, it’s really a different kind of pain. It can hit you like a thief in the night. So swift. So silent. So deadly.
So, you should never be confident purely just because you know that your partner loves you. You can’t allow yourself to espouse such complacency.
You always need to be on top of your relationship at all times. And that means always staying mindful of the parts of it that might be broken.
Remember that just because you’re so happy with your love doesn’t mean that you can’t improve on anything. There is always going to be something that you need to work on. There is always something you can try to make better.
And if you’re still not convinced that a person who loves you would never leave you, then maybe you should read on until the end of this article. Here are a few definitive reasons as to why people still choose to leave the ones that they love:
1. They don’t feel respected.
At the base of any kind of relationship, there should always be respect. You may think that your partner loves you but they would never allow themselves to stay with you if you don’t show them respect. A person’s dignity is always going to come first and you need to stay mindful of that fact.
2. They don’t feel supported.
A bulk of what makes up a relationship is emotional support between two individuals who love one another. You want to make sure that the one you love always feels supported.
You never want them to feel slighted or cheated. When they are going through rough struggles, make sure that they know that you are there for them.
Make sure that they are always able to count on you to show up for them even when it’s difficult or inconvenient to do so. That’s what it means to be there for someone in good times and in bad.
3. They don’t feel adequate.
Believe it or not, a person who loves you is always at risk of leaving whenever you don’t make them feel like they are enough for you.
If you are always making them feel like they’re not doing enough for the relationship, then they end up feeling hopeless and inadequate. You can’t allow that to be the case.
If your partner loves you and you want them to continue to love you, then you always have to make them feel validated. You have to always make sure that your partner knows how appreciative you are of everything that they do for you.
4. They don’t feel listened to.
We are all told that communication is very important in a relationship. And that’s right. However, a lot of us also take that to mean that we need to be doing a lot of talking in the relationship.
But it really shouldn’t be just about that. In a relationship, more than just talking, it’s also about listening. Remember that communication is comprised of both listening and talking.
You can’t be so content to just be saying everything that’s on your mind and in your heart. You also need to make sure that your partner feels safe to express themselves to you.