There are very few things in the world that are actually worse than being in a romantic relationship with an abusive, manipulative, and toxic individual. However, these terrible human beings are so good at masking their toxicity that they still manage to fool a lot of gullible and innocent people. Sometimes, by the time that the toxic and abusive signs begin to surface, there is already an emotional connection that is there which can cloud peoples’ better judgment.
Instead of believing that your partner is at fault and they are the ones to blame, you end up looking inside of yourself. You convince yourself that what they’re saying is right; that you are the one who is to blame and that everything that is wrong in your relationship is because of you. You will love this person too much to the point that you become blind to the blatant signs of abuse and manipulation.
And that is horrible behavior on your part that you need to stop. You need to stop allowing yourself to become victimized by this person that you are supposedly in a loving relationship with. You always want to be protecting yourself and keeping yourself guarded. You always want to make sure that you are never being made a fool out of. And most importantly, you never want to be relegated to the abuse and manipulation of a toxic individual.
The thing about being in a toxic relationship with an emotionally abusive and manipulative individual is that it is very unlikely that they are going to change who they are. It can get to a point wherein you just have to recognize that things are very wrong and that you need to leave that relationship entirely. But how do you know? Well, you need to make yourself aware of the signs that you’re actually with an emotionally abusive and manipulative person.
If a lot of the things listed in this article apply to your partner, then you need to be able to exit that relationship right away. Here are a few signs that your relationship is emotionally abusive and that you need to walk away from it right away.
1. They twist the words that you say to get an advantage.
They are always going to try to take what you say and use it against you. Instead of really paying attention to whatever you’re trying to tell them, they’re constantly looking for ways to twist your words and make you feel bad about them. You are never made to feel safe about expressing yourself openly and honestly.
2. They absolve themselves of the responsibility that comes with the things that they say or do.
And they refuse to take responsibility for any of their faults and shortcomings in the relationship. They are always looking to wash their hands clean. And that means always putting the blame and guilt on you. They make you feel bad for something that they should be accountable.
3. They play the victim a lot.
They are going to play the victim in the relationship a lot. Even though you are the real victim in this situation, he’s going to make it seem like you are the one who is doing him wrong. He’s going to make it seem like he’s the victim of the situation.
4. They make light of all your problems and misgivings.
And he really isn’t going to be taking any of your problems or misgivings seriously. He is never going to make you feel like your feelings matter.
FINAL THOUGHTS
Love is always tricky because you are constantly taught to be as tolerant, patient, and as understanding as possible with the person you love. However, you should never be that way at the expense of your own needs and standards. You must still make it a point to look out for yourself and make sure that your own personal well-being (whether physical or emotional) isn’t being compromised.
Yes, you want to be able to love a person wholeheartedly. And you know that that isn’t always going to be easy. You know that you always have to be willing to make a few sacrifices and compromises here and there. But you should also understand the importance of loving yourself first. If you love yourself the way that you’re supposed to, then you would never be tolerant of abusive treatment from other people.
A relationship is always going to be a lot of work. You are always going to have to stick out the rough times if you want to be able to make the relationship last. But that doesn’t mean that you should just be willing to stay in a relationship that is causing too much damage to your overall mental and emotional health. If you are in an abusive relationship, you need to get out of it.
