With age comes maturity. No one can stay a kid forever, they can stay ‘kid-like’ but they can’t live in their pre-teens or teens forever. Before long, you’ll be realizing that you’re changing; mentally and physically. You can or cannot be prepared for these changes but they will come. Now, girls change a bit more than guys.
I’m not undermining guys in particular, but generally girls undergo way more drastic changes. Like I said, you change mentally and physically. They might not be in coherence though. Like, I know a lot of girls who’re in their late twenties but look like kids. Their time will come, however, their maturity has changed and that is the topic of today’s article.
Men think that women are complex beings. If I only had a nickel for every time a guy told a girl that they’re hard to ‘understand’, I’d be a gazillionaire. You might think that it’s easy for a girl to say that fellow girls are easy to get, but honestly guys, we’re real tired of this stereotype. I will admit, however, that younger girls are SOMEWHAT harder to get. They’re in their prepubescent age and you can’t expect much. Some kids might be wiser beyond their years but some are not. Yet, if you treat a woman the same way you would treat a girl, then you’re so in the wrong.
Here are some of the things women in their twenties want guys to know:
1- If we like you, we genuinely like you:
You can only play the ‘I like you, but I’m not so sure about it..’ game for so long before growing up. Once you’re all grown up, you cannot think that a guy is willing to wait long enough for you to make up your mind.
They’ll wait if you have a genuine problem, but they won’t wait around for someone who’s just going to mess with their heads. I’m not saying that all girls do that, but most tend to. So do most guys but they stop after a certain age. Unfortunately, they don’t think that women ever stop. Well, news flash, we do!
We realize how stupid it sounds. We don’t want that to stay with us for the rest of our lives so we stop. – Continue reading on next page
2- Stop adding the suffix ‘… Like a girl’ to anything you find insulting:
Fighting like a girl does not involve waving your hands around in the air with your face faced backwards so our makeup won’t be ruined. The ruthless force with which we destroy our enemies is commendable. Women aren’t really made up of sugar, spice and everything nice, you guys know that right?
Women are made up of the exact same things that guys are made of. We aren’t less nor are we any better than you based on our gender. The only thing that gives anyone superiority over the next is personality. Be it a guy or a girl, we don’t mind. However, we do mind the fact that you think anything which is superficial is directly linked to femininity. Doubting our abilities as individuals based on our gender will keep you back in life.
3- We realize that you have feelings too:
So far, I’ve mentioned only feminine stereotypes so let’s add a male one to the list as well. No one can deny that people don’t have feelings. That’s impossible, legit. Some people can hide theirs better than others where as some people are way more expressive.
The common misconception is that women will always wear their hearts out on their sleeves and men don’t even have hearts. If we didn’t when we were young, we have now acknowledged the fact that men indeed have feelings.В – Continue reading on next page
We aren’t going to do anything which involves you being numb to any sort of emotion. We care about you and what you say, so don’t think of us as people you can’t display emotions in front of. Women don’t think that feelings bring about a decrease in your masculinity.
4- We actually do dress to impress, but not in the way you think:
Okay, this has gone on for far too long. At first people considered this to be a joke, but now they actually think that it’s part of our personalities. Lads, women aren’t always on the look out to impress you. We do dress nicely for many reasons. The first and foremost being for ourselves. No, this isn’t a femi-nazi thing; it’s actually a legit thing.
I don’t want to wear slacks all the time, maybe most of the time but definitely not all the time. If I ever come out with my hair down and in a nice dress, then yeah I would like to get complimented (who doesn’t?). However, I wouldn’t be looking like this JUST to get complimented from random people. Maybe I’m meeting someone and want them to notice me or maybe this is the first time I’ve been out in so long that it just feels good to look nice.
At the end of the day, all I can tell you is that no one likes to be stereotyped. They don’t like to be judged the same way based on how they were when they were younger because, believe it or not, people can actually change.