Living together isn’t as easy as it looks.
Moving in together with a romantic partner is a very big deal. A lot of people might downplay the significance of this relationship milestone, but there’s really no denying that it has deep implications in the dynamics of the relationship as a whole. There is a substantial difference between a couple that is dating and a couple that is actually living together. There is a very distinct line that is crossed whenever couples choose to start living together and this is a decision that no one should be taking lightly.
It takes a certain level of developed maturity and emotional stability for a person to actually get into a relationship. However, it’s a whole other level whenever the couples actually decide to start living together. There are a whole new set of rules and responsibilities that these couples take on whenever they actually decide to start living together. If immature and emotionally unstable people aren’t ready to sustain a casual dating life together, then they certainly aren’t ready to be living with each other.
There are so many factors that go into play whenever couples do start thinking about whether they should be moving in together. On the one hand, there are plenty of benefits that come with it. For one, it would give couples an opportunity to get closer to one another. They will be able to share a lot more time with each other. And it also gives them a chance to really solidify their relationship. Other benefits include them being able to share their responsibilities with one another. However, there are also plenty of potential downsides to when couples decide to move in with each other. For one, it is a dramatic lifestyle change and not a lot of people will be able to handle such a drastic change in such a short period of time. Next, you start to lose all your sense of privacy when you decide to move in with your partner. You will no longer have an intimate living space that you can call entirely your own.
Now there are many pros and cons as to when couples decide to move in together, but eventually, all long-term relationships eventually come to this stage. The question is whether or not these people are actually ready for this phase of the relationship. If you and your partner are thinking about moving in together, but aren’t entirely sure about it, then you need to engage in some more reflection. Here are a few questions that you need to be asking yourself before you make a decision.
1. Are you ready to actually share a space with another person?
Some people just prefer to be alone. It’s as simple as that. If you’re the type of person who just can’t handle the constant company of other people just yet, then maybe you really aren’t ready to move in with your partner. But if you feel like you’re okay with the fact you will literally be sharing a living space with another person, then maybe now is the proper time for the both of you. The both of you just need to be honest and open to each other upfront.
2. What is your motivation for wanting to move in together?
Why do you want to move in with each other in the first place? Is it because you think it would be easier on your finances to just share a living space together? That’s a fine reason for young couples to move in together, but it certainly shouldn’t be the priority. The main thing that you want to be looking at when you decide to move in with another person is whether you are actually compatible with each other. Yes, you may be putting some relief on your financial woes, but you might also be causing some emotional strain to the relationship by doing so.
3. Do you have a partner who is willing to clean up after himself/herself?
You can’t afford to be your partner’s housemaid or personal butler. You will both end up resenting each other for that. The both of you need to develop some sense of independence and self-reliance before you can actually start living with each other. You need to know how to pick up after yourselves before you start sharing a living space with another person. It takes two mature and independent people to make a shared living space work.
4. Are you homebodies or do you like to go out a lot?
Are you the kind of person who likes to stay in on a Friday night? Is your partner the kind of person who always wants to go out clubbing and drinking with friends? These are things that you need discuss before you move in together. It can create a lot of tension for the both of you when you both share contrasting perspectives on how you want to spend your time.
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