Do you have insecurities?
Experienced romantic couples will tell you that it takes so much more than just love to make a relationship work. Compatibility and timing are very important in ensuring the success of a relationship. Couples have to be able to establish a healthy dynamic in which they can channel their love healthily. Sometimes, a poor relationship dynamic can overpower a love and end up destroying the passion and romance as a whole. That’s why aside from loving one another, couples should be able to carry their relationship in a healthy manner. If you are still unable to express or manifest your love for your partner in healthy ways, then that can definitely spell trouble for your romance.
This is where insecurity comes in. There is just no denying that a lot of people will still feel insecure in the relationships that they are in no matter how good things may be looking from the outside. And that’s where things can get particularly tricky. Insecurity has the power to impact how you treat your partner and how you act around them. Insecurity can heavily influence your relationship in a negative way if you leave it unchecked. You don’t want to indirectly bring about the early demise of your relationship by choosing to ignore the symptoms of insecurity. You have to be able to tackle your anxieties head first if you want a chance at making your relationship last. You have to be able to own your insecurities if you don’t want them to end up owning you. It’s definitely easier said than done, but you really have to learn how to be secure in your romance and in your relationship. You have to be able to make that transition from a place of insecurity to a place of security and assuredness. You have to be confident about your relationship and the role that you play in it. But there’s no downplaying the difficulties and challenges that come with accomplishing this task. It’s going to require a lot of effort and commitment on your part to get to this place of security and for the sake of your relationship, you can’t afford to give up. You need to be able to get yourself over to safety if you really want a healthy relationship dynamic that you can build on for the future.
Now of course, some relationships are going to give a lot of people justifiable reasons to be insecure and unsafe. For instance, there are just some partners who are downright manipulative, abusive, and toxic, and so the insecurity brought about in the relationship is by design. These are the partners who are looking to prey on your insecurities and vulnerabilities for their own benefit. They are the ones who are causing all the chaos and unnecessary stress in the relationship. These are the partners who are triggering your anxieties whenever they get the chance. If you are in this kind of relationship, don’t even try to fix things. Just get out and find yourself someone better who will actually treat you right.
But if you think that you are in a normal and non-toxic relationship and your insecurities still persist, then this article is for you. You would know that your relationship isn’t toxic if your partner is always kind and open to you; if your partner is always looking out for you in the best possible means. You would know that your partner is great for you if they still love you in spite of your insecurities. But you still need to meet them halfway. You need to be able to free yourself from this destructive mindset if you want things to work out between the two of you. Here are a few tips to help you deal with your insecurity in a relationship:
1. Know what is triggering all the anxiety in your life.
Sometimes, to get rid of your insecurities, the solution can be as simple as merely getting rid of all the triggers. Try to figure out what the source of all your anxiety is and then avoid this source as much as possible.
2. Learn to have deeper talks face to face and not over the phone.
Yes, it’s nice if the you are constantly texting your partner throughout the day to check up on them, but nothing can replace the emotional value of having a deep conversation while you’re staring into each other’s eyes.
3. Find the things that make you happy in the relationship and nurture them.
To drive out the darkness in your life, you have to let a lot of light in. Find all of the things that make you happy in the relationship and nurture them. Always make sure that you’re creating a positive environment in your relationship for yourself and for your partner.
4. Be mindful of how your insecurities are impacting your partner.
Remember that you aren’t alone in this relationship. Remember that your insecurities don’t only affect you, but your partner as well. Perhaps if you become more thoughtful and selfless, you will come to realize that your insecurities need to be stopped for the sake of the people around you.
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