A lot of the time, whenever a person is dealing with some kind of commitment issue, it’s something that is brought about by a fear of rejection. If you look deep down inside, one always wants to be loved, admired, cared for, and understood; however, the desire for these things and feelings may not necessarily be enough to overcome the fear of rejection. And it’s highly likely that we fear rejection from the people we care about the most. You fear commitment; otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this article. And it’s good that you are acknowledging this fear. It means that you aren’t letting his fear have its power over you.
It means that you aren’t letting this fear cripple you and you want to get over it. You don’t want to let this fear keep you from finding the love that you think you deserve. The first thing that you have to know right now is that you aren’t alone in this fear. There are so many people all over the world who have commitment issues as well. And you have to know that it’s only because you are looking out for yourself. It’s all a part of self-preservation. You try to put on a tough exterior so as to turn other people off to the idea of messing with you; of betraying you. You want to put on a kind of mask that scares people away so that you don’t give them the opportunity to hurt you. You want to hide your insecurities and sensitivities.
But you also know that you need to be able to make yourself more open and vulnerable if you really want to welcome love into your life. You know that you need to open yourself up to that risk. There are also a lot of times wherein fear of commitment can stem itself in relationships where people hold back; wherein people just refuse to give all of themselves in a relationship. In this kind of relationship, you are putting up a shield; and you aren’t letting your partner into your intimate space. You are in a relationship; but you feel so isolated and lonely. You feel so closed off from the partner you’re supposedly trying to get close to.
And it’s so tiring when you have your guard up all of the time. It can be emotionally draining; and it’s just downright intoxicating your relationship. Yes, it can be scary to put yourself in a vulnerable position. But it’s always so endearing and relieving to know that you can trust someone enough to be vulnerable with them without having to worry. So how exactly do you overcome your fears? What do you need to do to get over your commitment issues? What do you have to do to deal with the demons in your soul? Well, you have to know upfront that it just isn’t going to be easy. It’s not a problem that you’re going to be able to fix in the span of one day. However, the more effort you put into it, the higher the chance that you would be able to fix it.
You always have the power to let go of the fear that your own mind generates for itself. You have the power to let go of all of your issues. You just have to make sure that you commit to the entire process. You just have to make sure that you are decided on doing so. But if you’re not exactly sure how everything is going to play out; or if you’re not sure what steps you need to take to get over this fear, then this article is going to be perfect for you. This is for you; the person who wants a real loving relationship that you can really depend on for sustenance and support. And you know that you won’t be able to do that if you don’t try to face your fears and overcome them. So without further ado, here are a few ways you can get over your fear of commitment.
1. Stop starting things that you know you won’t finish.
Don’t ask for someone’s number if you’re never going to call them. Don’t ask them out if you’re only going to flake.
2. Start being more honest with yourself.
Know that you have this fear; know that you’re being unhealthy with the way that you’re dealing with others. Acknowledge that you need to fix something and that what you’re doing is wrong.
3. Boost your self-esteem without bringing other people down.
If you find joy in toying with other peoples’ feelings, then you know that you’re doing something wrong. That can’t be your approach to love and dating.
4. Learn to take better care of yourself.
Sometimes, it’s just a matter of being independent. If you stop relying on other people for validation and confidence, you can have a life that you can be proud of. You won’t see other people as objects anymore.
