The first thing that you have to look at to try and fix your dating life is your character.
At first, diving into the dating pool can be a fun, exciting, and enriching experience. You are in your early adulthood and you feel like you are ready and ripe for the kind of love that you see in the movies or that you read about in books. You go into the dating world with the kind of enthusiasm a child entering an arcade hall would have. You start to date different kinds of people and you start learning more about who you are and what you want out of love in the process. But then, after a few failed tries at having a relationship with someone, you feel that your enthusiasm is starting to wane. The dating experience isn’t going to be as fun and as exciting as it was when you first started. In fact, after a while, you’re going to feel totally frustrated and lost at why you still haven’t found love. That’s a perfectly normal response.
You start to question your own personal self-worth and your self-esteem and confidence levels take a drop. You start to ask if you will ever be worthy of love and you try to think about the ways that you can improve your chances. While it’s not a good thing for you to be lowering your self-esteem, it’s good that you understand that you may need to make some adjustments in order to yield different results. Einstein was the one who said that doing the same thing over and over again only to expect different results is insanity. So maybe there are a few changes that you need to make with your approach to dating.
The first thing that you have to look at to try and fix your dating life is your character. Remember that out of all your failed dating experiments, you are the common factor in these equations. So it is only right that you take a long hard look at yourself and you try to figure out which parts of yourself you can try to improve on. A huge bulk of your character can be formed by a lot of the habits that you have.
Unknowingly, a lot of your habits contribute greatly to how people see your personality as a whole. So even if you think that you are overall a stand-up person, if you have bad dating habits, then people aren’t going to be seeing you through a positive lens. That’s why you must always make it a point to be aware of your habits and make sure to correct any bad habits that you may have. Sometimes, these habits can fly under the radar a little bit and so you always have to be vigilant. But to help you out even further, you should probably read on until the end of this list to become more enlightened about what bad dating habits look like.
1. You bring a negative vibe to the date.
Negativity is always something that people tend to stray away from. If you are constantly bringing a sense of cynicism, pessimism, and negativity to the dates that you go on, then it’s no wonder that you’re finding success. You give a negative energy to the people that you’re with and you tend to zap all of the happiness out of a room. Try lightening things up a little bit and you will see a stark difference.
2. You try too hard to please the people that you’re with.
Sometimes, when you try too hard to make the people that you’re with happy all the time, you can come off as fake. While it is important to be understanding and mindful of the feelings of the people around you, you shouldn’t be acting fake at all. You should still be your true self. Just because you want to be respectful of others doesn’t mean you have to censor who you really are. You can just tone things down a little if things get too intense.
3. You flake on dates.
Never flake on dates. That’s never a good thing. When you constantly cancel on the people that you date, you are never going to find success in love. When you cancel on someone consistently, you are essentially saying that you don’t respect them enough to actually value their time.
4. You still haven’t gotten over an ex.
No person that you’re dating will want to hear about how you’re still so hung over a previous relationship. Why would you be dating if you weren’t over a previous relationship anyway? You have to be in a stable emotional place if you want to open your heart to another person. At the very least, if you’re not totally healed yet, you should put more effort into hiding the damaged part of yourself.
5. You set your standards too high.
And lastly, maybe you’re just a little too choosy. Remember that dating is about social experimentation and it’s encouraged for you to step out of your comfort zone every once in a while.
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