Think before taking the leap.
We are all going to have our individual struggles in life. We are all going to have to endure our fair share of high points and low points. Life was never designed to be a smooth ride and that’s both the beauty and burden of the universe. We appreciate everything that’s beautiful and happy because we are also forced to endure moments of ugliness and despair. And as we make our way through our individual life, we pick up a few important lessons along the way. We stumble and we fall, but it’s through these failures where we really learn. It’s when we are faced with adversity wherein we really discover who we are and where we stand in this life. As we grow older, we really start to understand what our core principles are in life; the guidelines that we establish for ourselves in order to help us make our way through this difficult world. These core principles are going to help offer some kind of a rubric for us when faced with making difficult decisions that carry a significant impact on our lives.
When it comes to getting into relationships, it’s very important for us to never disregard our core principles. We have to be able to let our core principles guide is in choosing a potential life partner. It can’t just all be about love and effort. Remember that in order for a relationship to really work, you need to be compatible. No amount of love, effort, or commitment will be able to make up for substantial incompatibility issues. And the only way you can know for sure if you’re incompatible with another person is if you happen to share similar core principles in life. These are the aspects of your personality that you should never have to compromise or sacrifice. We are all taught that it’s very important to make compromises in a relationship and that’s true. But compromises shouldn’t ever have to cover your core principles. Because once you are forced to compromise the things that make you who you are, you end up losing to yourself to the relationship and that’s never a good thing. It’s never good to lose your sense of identity.
Keep in mind that our core principles are directly tied into who we are as human beings. That’s why it makes total sense for us to pursue romantic partnerships with people who actually share similar core principles as us. Once you are able to find someone to love who happens to share similar core principles as you, then you’re practically set for life. But here’s the tricky part: how do you know if you share similar core principles with another person if you don’t even know what your own core principles are?
You have to be able to develop a sense of self-awareness with regards to your core principles so you can really figure out who you are and where you stand in life and in relationships. The better understanding that you have of who you are as a person, the easier it will be for you to spot out suitable romantic partners for yourself. If you don’t know who you are, where you stand, and what you believe in, then you will only end up lost and wayward in your personal pursuit of love.
To help you on your journey of self-discovery, here are a few key things that you really need to think about with regards to your core principles before you decide to get into a relationship with anyone.
1. Honesty
You really have to figure out where you stand as far as honesty is concerned. You may want to think if you’re the kind of person who always demands for the truth no matter how hurtful or inconvenient it may be. Or perhaps you are the person who is okay with being lied to for the sake of the greater good.
2. Responsibility
One very important core principle is that of actually being emotionally responsible in your own life and in a relationship. How important is it for you that your partner be someone who actually owns up their responsibilities and the impacts of their actions?
3. Communication
Communication is important in relationships but the degrees in which couples engage in communication can vary depending on their personalities. You really have to figure out if you’re the type of person who really values constant open communication or if you are a low-maintenance individual when it comes to communicating with your partner.
4. Financial Management
How strict are you with regards to the management of your finances? How lenient are you with splurging and with spending? Your core principles surrounding your financial philosophy is very important for you to discover because finances matter in a long-term relationship.
5. Anger Management
And lastly, you have to know how you are with managing anger and conflict. Are you the type of person who likes to deal with problems and confrontations head on? Or perhaps this makes you uncomfortable and you would just prefer to sweep these issues under the rug.
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