Be your true self!
Sometimes, the old clichs always ring true in relationships. Honesty is indeed the best policy even when we want to put on so many masks to hide who we really are. And there’s a good reason why being honest is such a difficult thing to do. It’s just downright scary exposing your true self to your significant other. It can be very emotionally overwhelming for a person who is dealing with many insecurities to stay authentic and true to who they really are on the inside; especially in relationships with the one person in the world they would not want to disappoint the most.
It’s fairly common for people to not tell the whole story especially when the relationship is still fresh and new. They don’t want to make the big reveal just yet because they don’t want to scare away their partners by being completely open about who they are. So they will try to project idealized versions of themselves. They will act in ways that are totally unnatural in an effort to try to please their partners. They will want to act in ways that they think their partners would appreciate and learn to fall in love with.
These little personality adjustments that we make can be both big and small. Like perhaps we can lie about liking their taste in music, books, or movies. But these lies can be big as well. Maybe we try to alter our fundamental core beliefs in an effort to not be in conflict with them.
Yes, being completely true and open about who you are on the inside can be difficult. It might even seem unnatural in some weird sense. We are all so pressured into thinking that we have to act better than who we really are. And sometimes we can take that to mean that we should just stop being our true selves entirely. That shouldn’t be the case. We should never have to feel like we have to suppress who we are on the inside just for the sake of getting someone to like us. And you don’t have to worry about losing your relationship over being who you really are. In fact, there are substantial benefits to just being your genuine self in a romance. Don’t believe it? Well, just read on until the end of this article to learn more.
1. Being your genuine self in a relationship will help your partner understand you better.
If you’re constantly putting up some sort of charade of lies, then your partner is never really going to get to know the real you. Sure, you think that if you act a certain way, you can get them to fall in love with you. But are they really falling in love with you in that case? No. They’re falling in love with the person that you’re making them think you are even when you’re completely different.
2. You give your partner the permission to be their genuine selves as well and so you will be able to understand them better as well.
And when you just allow your true self to come out, you allow your partner to do the exact same thing. They will feel more comfortable about being their true selves if you actually take the initiative. If you can show them how liberating it can be to just he honest with who you really are, then they will see that it can help strengthen the dynamic of your relationship after all.
3. Having to put up some sort of facade or charade to hide who you really are is unsustainable. It’s exhausting and it has very little pay-off.
You aren’t going to be able to put this act up forever. You are going to crack eventually and everything is going to backfire on you. It’s so much easier to just be your true self.
4. Being your authentic self can help strengthen the emotional connection that you have as a couple.
Real emotional connections can only stem from genuine personalities. If you are constantly lying to one another about who you are on the inside, then you are bastardizing whatever connection you are trying to form with one another.
5. When you allow your true self to come out in your relationship, then you end up discovering more about who you really are and who you’re meant to be.
You owe it to yourself to always stay true to yourself. And if you suppress who you really are in your relationship, then you are doing yourself a disservice. You need to love yourself enough to actually allow yourself to shine in whatever situation. And if other people can’t accept you for who you are, then that shouldn’t be your problem. You should never feel like your life is invalid just because other people can’t accept who you are. The most important person that you have to please is yourself.
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