5 Secrets The Narcissist Hopes You Never Learn

Narcissism defines a behavior where people are self-centered and focused on self-inflation. It’s a personality disorder in which people think extremely highly of themselves and don’t empathize with other people’s feelings and needs.

If you’re close to a narcissist, you might get caught up in their tricky games, lies, and emotional hurt. But you can keep yourself safe and in charge if you know how a narcissist thinks.

Here are 5 things narcissists don’t want you to know.

1. They Need You More Than You Need Them

Narcissists might act all confident and important, but deep down, they really need others to make them feel good about themselves. They can’t feel good on their own, so they always want people to tell them how amazing they are. This need for other people to boost their ego is called “narcissistic supply.” It shows that narcissists are actually quite insecure and rely a lot on others, even though they act like they don’t need anyone. It’s a strange situation where the people who act the most sure of themselves are actually the ones who need others the most to feel good.

2. Their Confidence Is Fragile

They may seem super confident, important, and charming on the outside, but inside, narcissists are quite different. Their confident act is just a cover-up for their deep fears and worries. At their core, they feel really insecure. They’re scared of not being good enough, of people not liking them, and of not mattering. These fears come from how they see themselves, which is not very positively. To shield themselves from these hurtful feelings, narcissists create a big, impressive image of themselves and always want other people to say how great they are.

3. They Don’t Experience Empathy

Empathy means understanding and sharing the feelings of others, putting yourself in their shoes to feel what they feel. But for narcissists, this is hard. They have trouble with empathy because they’re mostly focused on themselves – what they want and how they feel. This self-centeredness leaves little space for understanding how others feel. So, they can do things that hurt people without feeling bad about it. This lack of empathy lets them use and control others to get what they want, without caring about how it hurts others emotionally.

4. They Fear Exposure

Narcissists think very highly of themselves and act like they’re super important. They work really hard to show the world a perfect version of themselves, hiding their own doubts and weaknesses. But behind this well-practiced act, they have a lot of problems. This gap between how they look to others and how they feel inside makes them very anxious. Deep down, they’re scared that if people saw their true selves – with all their fears and imperfections – nobody would like or respect them anymore. This idea terrifies them because they depend a lot on other people saying how great they are to feel good about themselves.

5. They Can’t Maintain Healthy Relationships

Narcissists have big egos and want lots of attention and praise, which can make having good relationships hard. First, they struggle to understand and care about how others feel. This makes it tough to meet the needs of others in a relationship. Second, they always want people to say how great they are, and this can be more important to them than caring for the other person’s feelings and needs. So, being in a relationship with a narcissist can feel one-sided and unbalanced.

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