What if you really were acting a little hastily when you broke up with him?
Break ups can be incredibly messy. Any bad breakup can be a difficult ordeal to have to go through. Both sides of the aisle have pains to bear and even third-parties are affected. Your break-ups not only have impacts on your own lives, but on the lives of the people around you. They can be hurtful. They can be irritating. They can be life-changing. Sometimes, you’re not even sure if breaking up was the proper course of action. You find yourself questioning your decision to end things, and that can be very emotionally draining. You shouldn’t have to question your own feelings right?
But what if you really did make the wrong decision? What if you really were acting a little hastily when you broke up with him? How can you tell? For some people, they can be sure about their decisions to breakup with their boyfriends. Maybe he was an arrogant douche who just sucked the life out of everyone around him.
Maybe he was a jealous boyfriend who had violent tendencies. No questions. Breakups are perfectly reasonable in these scenarios. But then again, there are some times when you really just can’t help but question your decision. You ponder the thought of getting back together with him to give things another try.
Will it be worth it? Or was your break up with him the right course of action for the both of you?
1. You miss taking care of your boyfriend and doing things for him.
For any breakup, it would be perfectly normal for you to miss all the good things your boyfriend used to do for you. But it’s another story entirely if you miss all of the things that you used to do for him. You have so much love bottled up inside of you that you’re dying to unload on someone else. But the thing is, you don’t think that just anyone is deserving of your love. Your heart always has the one special place in it that’s reserved for someone in particular. You miss being able to express your love, and you miss him being the recipient of that love. – Continue reading on the next page
2. You miss the entirety of your relationship, even the rough parts.
Again, it’s perfectly normal for any person going through a breakup to miss the good parts of a relationship. It’s a whole other level when someone misses the bad parts too. If you find yourself missing the rough patches of your relationship, then that means you take these as learning experiences and opportunities for growth as a couple.
It means that you knew these rough patches were not bad experiences because you were confident in your abilities as a couple to power through them. You look at these rough patches and you think to yourself, huh, we handled that pretty well. Things just didn’t turn out for the best in the long run.
3. Every time something good happens in your life, you wish he were at your side to experience it with you.
It’s a clich to be looking for that one person to be at your side when all of your dreams come true. It’s a romantic theme that comes straight out of primetime television dramas. The leading lady has all of her dreams come true for her and her leading man comes up from behind her and seals the moment with a romantic kiss with her in a crowd full of people. If you find yourself looking for your ex whenever something good or important happens in your life, then that means you’re probably regretting that breakup.
Most likely, he was the guy that you want to be with you whenever you have your successes or failures. You want to share your whole life with him but that’s no longer an option at this point.В – Continue reading on the next page
4. You still go out of your way to make him notice you and make him miserable that you’re no longer together.
You ask your mutual friends about his whereabouts constantly. You try to go out of your way to bump into each other and let him know that you’re doing fine without him. If you’re dating someone new, you try your best to make sure that the news reaches him and you’re desperate to find out how he feels about it. His feelings are still of utmost importance to you because you miss the thought of being able to have open access to his soul when you were together.
5. You compare all future flings with him, but none of them can even come close.
It’s just never the same. You try to move on by dating other guys but none of them can ever live up to that one man you let slip away. You’re left in a perpetual state of heartbreak because you still hope that you can fix things with him, but you’re also fairly certain that reconciliation might no longer be an option for the both of you.
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