Sincerity is just really hard to come by these days. There are so many of us who roam this world who say one thing even though we mean another. A lot of us are two-faced. We put on this kind of image that we think society expects of us even though deep down inside, we feel totally different. And sometimes, we force ourselves to act a certain way to get what we want even though the way we act is completely different from how we feel. This kind of practice happens a lot, especially in love.
That’s why there are so many girls out there who end up getting duped by guys who just want to be with them for reasons other than love. Some guys use girls for their bodies. Some guys get with girls for an upgrade in social status. Some guys would even feign love for a girl for the financial benefits that she can offer him. Whatever the case, it’s wrong to be in a relationship with someone for any reason other than love. And if you aren’t being sincere with your love, then shame on you.
But the truth still remains; there are still plenty of insincere guys out there who you need to be wary of. These are the guys you really need to be careful with. They are the ones who will do or say anything to get you to fall for them even though they aren’t interested in loving you in return.
And if you don’t want to get heartbroken, you need to make sure that you stay guarded at all times. But love is always going to require some kind of vulnerability. So, you’re going to have to learn to balance guardedness and vulnerability if you really want to pursue love. However, that isn’t as easy as it sounds.
You want to open yourself up to someone if you think you have a chance at falling in love with one another. But you don’t want to be opening yourself up to someone whose motives are toxic and whose intentions are dishonorable.
You don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who is downright insincere with his feelings for you. That’s just wrong. So what do you do if you still want to find love? You can’t shut yourself off to ALL men in the world. That’s not the way to go. You just have to be a better judge of character. And that’s where being able to read the signs comes in handy.
It’s not always easy to spot early in a relationship; but if you know what you’re supposed to be looking for, it shouldn’t be too hard to do so. If you find that a lot of the things that are listed on here actually apply to the guy that you’re seeing, then it’s highly likely that his love for you isn’t sincere at all.
1. He never lets you steer the ship of the relationship.
He always wants to be in full control of the relationship. He is manipulative and he is tactical. He knows that if he starts letting you make some decisions in the relationship, he won’t get what he actually wants out of you. He is selfish and he doesn’t care much about meeting your needs or expectations.
2. He always resorts to personal attacks and foul language when you fight.
He has no problem belittling you and making you feel like a lesser person. He has no regard for whatever impact his words or actions may have on you. He is selfish and he’s only ever really thinking about himself.
3. He is only ever there for you when it’s convenient.
He isn’t consistent with you at all. Sure, he shows up for you every now and then. But it’s only when he really stands to benefit from it. Otherwise, if it’s too inconvenient for him, he’s not going to be there for you at all. He only really makes time for the relationship if he knows that he can get something out of it.
4. He is very vague and ambiguous about his expectations for the relationship.
When you try to ask him about his plans with you or his expectations for the relationship, he just gives basic non-answers and he will try to change the topic. The truth is that he wants nothing to do with having a relationship with you per se; he’s just interested in everything that you can offer him.
5. He makes it so difficult for both of you to have a conversation with one another.
Granted, not all men are skilled communicators; but all men who are in love should always at least make the effort to converse with their ladies. So, if you notice that your guy is just deliberately making it so hard for you to have a decent conversation, it’s probably because he’s hiding something and he doesn’t want to let it slip.
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