When you are in an intimate relationship with someone, it’s likely that you would want to be with someone who you expect to really change the way you see life. You would want to be with someone who turns your world upside down for the better. You want the kind of love that you read of in books and that you see in movies. You want that fairytale kind of romance. However, finding that kind of love is a lot easier said than done. There are so many people who go years before they are able to find the one that they’re meant to be with. There are just so many things that go into making a relationship work. There are so many variables that need to be taken into consideration. There are so many requirements and expectations that need to be met. And sometimes, love just doesn’t work out no matter how good your intentions might be.
A lot of what comprises being in a healthy relationship is getting intimate with someone. And intimacy can mean many things. It’s when two people are able to shove aside their egos for the sake of putting the relationship first. It’s when two people are able to look deep inside within themselves and acknowledge the parts of them that need growth and development. It’s when two people are able to love and support one another through various trials, challenges, and setbacks that life may throw their way. It’s when two people allow themselves to be vulnerable when they’re around each other because they feel perfectly safe in one another’s presence. It’s when two individuals love each other so much that they are willing to put other aspects of their lives on hold for the sake of the love and relationship.
If you are lucky enough to get into a relationship such as this, then you have to do everything in your power to not let that relationship go. You must try your absolute hardest to fight for that love; because that is definitely a love that is worth keeping. The key is in being able to recognize the love that’s right in front of you. Sometimes, you can get so lost in the thrill of love that you end up failing to appreciate it for what it’s truly worth. You risk taking your relationship for granted. And just as easily as having gained it, you lose it. And there are very few things in the world that are as devastating as losing a love that would have been perfect for you.
So how do you know if you’re in a physically intimate relationship with a person? How do you know that the person you’re with is a person you really have to fight for? Well, here are a few signs that you could try to take notice of once you’re actually in the relationship.
1. You don’t really try to change one another.
You understand that love isn’t about wanting your partner to be perfect. Real unconditional love is not about turning a blind eye to your partner’s flaws and imperfections. It’s about seeing your partner for who they really are and loving absolutely all aspects of that person. It’s not about picking and choosing the parts that you’re comfortable with. It’s about falling in love with the whole package.
2. You make each other’s lives better.
You just have a way of improving each other’s lives. You are always so invested in building one another up. And in a way, you are both inspired by your partner to just be more than you already are. You are motivated to do more and to dream big; and to always fight for what you think you are deserving of.
3. You have similar philosophies and fundamental beliefs in life.
You don’t really have too many compatibility issues because you somehow manage to minimize the friction that you have in your relationships. You share very similar fundamental beliefs and values on life; and that’s why it’s so easy for you to see eye to eye on a number of things in your relationship. You don’t really argue a lot.
4. You find it easy to have deep, profound, and meaningful conversations.
You are both okay with expressing your thoughts in an honest and profound manner. You let everything go. You don’t hold back. You don’t hide who you truly are; and that’s how you have really deep and profound conversations with each other.
5. You both maintain your sense of independence in the relationship.
It doesn’t matter that the two of you are in a very intimate relationship with one another. You always make it a point to maintain your independence and self-reliance. You don’t allow yourselves to be codependent because you know that that’s not what a relationship should be about. You still protect your sense of self despite being in a relationship together.
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