Sally might be heads over heels in love with Harry but unless Harry reciprocates her feelings there is a high chance of the crush eventually getting crushed into nothing.
Same equation applies to every other crush and infatuation around the corner. It is better to beware of your crush’s whereabouts and activities rather than associating expectations with them and eventually getting your own heart broken.
To know where you stand in someone’s life the number one power to be employed is the power of observation. You need to judge the pattern of your crush’s behavior around you and around certain other people. There are a number of plausible explanations as to why your crush might be acting a little weird or different around you but one likely explanation is that he might be crushing on another woman.
Following are 5 telltale signs to look out for while judging the position of your crush and his outer affairs:
Rumors are circulating all around you:
Smoke always rises from where there is fire. No fire no smoke so when you hear people talking about your crush being with another girl there might be if not all then a little ounce of truth in it. You might not like what you hear but listen anyways.
If the rumors in specific are coming from far off strangers who barely know him, then it’s fine to ignore them. However, if you hear the rumors with in the immediate circle of your and your crush’s friends then you should probably listen. It can be hard to learn that the person you like likes someone else but at least you would come to know sooner than later.
His center of attention is not you but another feminine entity:
If there is the existence of that one girl your crush hangs out with a lot and barely notices you when he’s with her then there is a very serious possibility of something going on between them. You might tell yourself recurrently that your crush is avoiding you and spending time with someone else because they are shy of you or some other lame excuse but funny business is not that hard to notice unless you consciously choose not to.
He always brings up Another Girl in your conversations:
Have you recently noticed how a while back you and your crush would laugh and have fun together, and how you’re conversations were interesting and fun but lately every time you guys hangout, he brings up the same girl, over and over again? Have you also noticed that he brings her up whenever he possibly can? If you have then it’s super likely that he is interested in her.
Let’s admit the fact that no one brings up anyone after every 5 minutes without having any ulterior motive. Think about it! You probably also look for excuses and reasons to talk about your crush all the time, so it is very likely that he is doing the same.
He misses no opportunity to interact with her verbally and physically:
Does your crush regularly give away free piggyback rides to a specific girl? Always tries to let her enter your group conversations? Misses no opportunity to arm wrestle or thumb fight with her? Laughs even at her lamest jokes? Does things for her that he has never done for you?
Like put his hand on her back as they walk through doors, or offering her his hand every time there is a stair? Well if yes then these small signs are clear red flags that your crush is interested in another girl. Finding excuses to unnecessarily touch another woman clearly means that he has ulterior motives.
Observe your crush’s body language the next time this girl is around. If he turns more towards her, and away from you then get the message from this simple symbolic gesture and move on because some things are better when let go off.
He cancels plans with you but makes new ones with her:
Nobody wants to miss on the opportunity of seeing their crush as often as possible. You too must wish that you can hang out with your crush more often and get to spend quality time with them. It is always a disappointment when plans don’t work out from the side of one’s crush and your invitation is declined.
If you feel that your crush makes up excuses not to come with you but is always willing to go somewhere if the other girl invites him then I’m sure you are wise enough to judge for yourself where his interests lie. You cannot always fool yourself into thinking that it is just a coincidence because coincidences do not happen on a regular basis. Think about it! If your crush is unable travel 2 kilometers and spare an hour to meet up with you and instead prefers spending entire days at a time with someone else then it must mean that in his life your preference is zero and that he is into someone else.
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