What’s your dream relationship like?
We all crave for love to some degree. Some of us crave it more than others. Some of us might not care as much. But there’s just no denying the significance of love in modern human culture; and the role that it has played in helping shape human civilization as we know it. A lot of us are going to pursue love with reckless abandon. Some of us will be lucky enough to find true love at our first try. A huge bulk of us are going to have to take a few trips around the block before we find a love that really works for us. And this article in particular is dedicated to those who have tried many times over and are growing tired of failing at love every single time.
Yes, it has been frustrating having to deal with getting let down over and over again. You get your hopes up but you always end up disappointed after every endeavor. You so desperately want that love that you think you deserve for yourself but the universe just never seems to cooperate with you. And suddenly, the idea of love starts to lose its appeal. Because of your experiences, you have grown a distinct distaste for it as opposed to excitement. Instead of love giving you a thrill, it gives you a sense of anxiety. And you hate that this is happening. It’s at this point where your hope starts to gradually diminish and you’re frightened that after each passing failure, your hope will cease to exist entirely. And that’s something that you really need to make sure doesn’t happen to you. For now, take a deep breath, relax your mind, and try to see love from a new lens. Maybe a fresh perspective will give you a much-needed renewal of energy.
Throughout your journey to find love, you have to constantly keep yourself in check. Learn to keep things in perspective. Envisioning the love that you think that you’re deserving of is more than just painting an image of it in your mind and hoping that it eventually comes to you. You can’t just conjure the ideal image of love that you have for yourself and expect it to come true. You have to be honest with yourself. You have to really come to terms with the fact that love isn’t going to be as simple or as easy as you would like it to be. Love is a very intricate and complex process that you need to participate in if you really want to find it for yourself. And if you refuse to appreciate and trust in the process, love is never going to manifest itself in your life. And that’s why you have to be methodical in your approach. You can’t rush love. You can’t bypass the process. You can’t just hastily pursue love because love won’t come for you whenever you call. You just really need to make sure that you undertake the necessary steps to find love and then you hope for the best.
But if you’re feeling lost and you don’t necessarily know how the process is supposed to go, you don’t have to fret. That’s what this article is for. Just try to keep these things in mind as you go about your journey to finding love. Make sure that you go through these steps, and you will be sure to give yourself a better shot at finding your dream relationship.
1. Work on your sense of self-worth.
First of all, you have to love yourself. As clich as it may sound, self-love actually makes you more appealing and more attractive to the people around you When you willingly fall in love with yourself, then you are unconsciously giving other people the permission to do the same. When you acknowledge your own self-worth, other people will recognize it in return.
2. Understand the things that you want and don’t want in relationships.
Before you can be happy in your relationships, you have to first know what you’re looking for in romance. You can’t just claim to be going after love even when you don’t know what your preferred love looks like. You need to have a clear vision of the love that you have for yourself so you can judge your romantic ventures better.
3. Focus on the little things without losing sight of the bigger picture.
Understand the grind of it all. Love doesn’t manifest itself in a single day. Sometimes, it’ll take weeks, months, and maybe even years. Learn to appreciate that grind and that process. And let your vision of the bigger future motivate you to be more appreciative of the little things.
4. Prepare yourself for the challenges that come with relationships.
Relationships aren’t always going to be a breath of fresh air. And if you think that you should just run and bolt the moment that things start to get difficult in relationships, then it just goes to show that you’re really not prepared to be in one.
5. Learn that all kinds of love are beautiful.
Just because you’re in a flawed love doesn’t make it any less beautiful than other people. When love walks into your life, you have to welcome it with open arms despite its flaws. No relationship is going to be without its flaws. And it’s the imperfections in your love that makes it even more beautiful than it already is.
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