5 Things That Change When You Enter A Relationship
Life doesn’t stay the same once you start sharing it with someone. It’s beautiful and weird and amazing!
There’s nothingquite like being in a relationship with a person that you love. Every singleone of us yearns for a taste of love in some shape or form. It’s an innatedesire for every human being. We are all in need of love. That’s why a lot ofus spend lots of time searching for that one person with whom we can build ahealthy romantic relationship with. We try our best to make sure that we doeverything right as we’re dating new people. We make sure we never want to messthings up because we don’t want to end up losing an opportunity for love. A lotof us will have to endure our fair share of disappointments and heartaches. Wewill have to go through difficult romantic experiences. We will have to come toterms with the fact that love doesn’t always turn out the way that we plan. Butwe never let these negative experiences taint our passion for love. We neverlet these bad heartaches discourage us from pursuing the love that can rightall the wrongs in our lives.
There are ofcourse the lucky few who happen to already be in happy and healthyrelationships. They’ve gone through all the heartaches of disappointment.They’ve somehow managed to win over the affection a person who tickles theirfancy. But what they don’t know is that when they enter the relationship,things aren’t always going to be as they seem. A lot of things in arelationship are very alien to people who have never been in relationshipsbefore. These people tend to be unaware of the fact that there are othersubstantial changes a person has to make from living the single life (and theyaren’t always very obvious).
The people whowill be able to adapt to these changes will be the people who have higherchances of finding success in their relationships. They are the people who areflexible and easy-going. However, those people who will be taken aback by thesechanges might not be able to handle them so well. That’s why before you getinto relationships, you must be aware of the changes that you’re going to haveto make as you transition from the single life into a shared life with yoursignificant other. This way, at least you have the opportunity to prepare forthe changes that you will be expecting. Here are the common things that change whenyou get into a relationship with another person.
1. Your idea of defining the relationship.
Before you getinto the relationship, you really don’t feel the need to label yourrelationships with anyone. You consider this guy to be your best friend. Youconsider this girl to be an acquaintance. You consider this girl to be acolleague at the office. But you never really give it much thought. Thingschange when you get into a romantic relationship with a person. You are forcedto really think about how you define your relationship with this person.
2. Your concept of personal time.
Your time is nolonger entirely your own. Yes, of course. You are still entitled to yourprivacy and your time for personal leisure. However, you have to understandthat when you get into a relationship with someone, you are also choosing togive up a huge bulk of your time. You can’t just choose to plot your scheduleon your own without consulting your partner. That would be insensitive andselfish. You have to allow yourself to make plans together with your partner.
3. Your expectations of the relationship.
Expectationsalways change the deeper you go into a relationship. Before you enter one, youeither have very grandiose or very vague expectations of the relationship. It’svery rare that your pre-relationship expectations will ever be meet. The deeperyou go into the relationship, the more you will come to understand yourpersonality and character as a couple. Then you start changing yourexpectations to fit your probable narrative as a couple in love.
4. Your financial habits.
Your spendinghabits are not going to be the same at all. You will have to start budgetingfor dates, gifts, and maybe even utilities if you ever decide to start livingtogether. You can’t just go out and buy those new gadgets, clothes, and toyswhenever you want. You have to think about the money you’re spending becauseyou can’t be selfish anymore.
5. Your social circle.
Whether you likeit or not, you will be inheriting an entirely different social circle once youget into a relationship with someone. You will be forced to integrate yourselfwithin your partner’s circle of friends. Friends are always important, and nowyou’re just going to have to make room for more people in your life. This caneither be a good thing or a bad thing depending on the type of person you are.
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