So you’ve been dating a quality guy for quite a while now. You love how things are going between the two of you. You seem to have a good rapport and chemistry. You really connect and you both know that you’re in love with one another at this point. You’ve really committed to making the relationship work; and at the back of your mind, you know that you have to convince him that you’re someone who would eventually be perfect as his future wife.
But how exactly do you do that? You don’t want to be shoving marriage down his throat. But you wouldn’t want him to think that you’re not up for it either. How are you able to let him know that you’re up for the challenge of being his loving wife without coming off as too forward and aggressive? That’s the question that this article is going to help you answer. It’s all about being able to market and brand yourself as a future wife. You want to be able to project characteristics and traits that would highlight just how good you would be in a marriage.
You don’t necessarily have to be changing yourself into someone you’re not. You just have to make sure that you really work your strengths to your advantage. There are a few basic rules that you need to remember if you want to know what an ideal wife DOESN’T look like. A good wife isn’t someone who is constantly hooking up with every man she meets. A good wife isn’t someone who is only ever really concerned about her own personal needs. A good wife isn’t someone who feels like she can’t be herself around her man. A good wife isn’t someone who is okay with living a life of mediocrity; someone who doesn’t pursue her personal passions.
When a man sees you as someone who would make a great wife in the future, he’s thinking in the very long-term. He’s looking at the many years that the both of you would be sharing down the line together. He would be thinking far ahead – at all the possible challenges that you might have to endure together; and whether or not you would be equipped to handle these challenges. And he’s going to be able to form a kind of vague idea in his mind as to whether you would make a great wife or not based on all of the things that he loves about you right now.
That’s why it’s important that you always project an image of yourself that makes your case for you; an image that tells him that he can always trust and rely on you down the line. You have to remember that you are both very dynamic human beings. You grow and you change over time. As your needs evolve, so will your personal traits and characteristics as well. It’s all a part of being adaptable and flexible. So naturally, by extension, your relationship is going to evolve as well. It’s always changing. It’s always evolving.
And that’s a good thing. It shows that your relationship is adaptable enough to meet the needs of the time. You must always be willing to grow and evolve along with your relationship. That’s a huge part of making yourself someone who is wife-material. You need to show your man that you wouldn’t crumble under the pressure. But what other aspects of your life should you really be working on? Well here are a few things that you can’t forget about either:
1. Spend plenty of time with him.
Naturally, you are going to have to spend lots of time with your future husband. Show him as early as now that you’re willing to spend as much time with him as possible.
2. Allow yourself to open up to him.
Show him that you’re willing to be vulnerable towards him; that you’re not closing yourself off. Be as open and as inviting as possible.
3. Make an effort to really meet his needs and expectations.
Prove to him that you just aren’t all about yourself; that you’re always thinking of his needs and his expectations as well.
4. Challenge and motivate him to grow.
Inspire him to want to be a better man. Really bring the best out of him. Show him that you’re the woman he needs at his side when he’s facing life’s toughest challenges.
5. Allow him to be himself.
Respect his individuality. Respect who he really is. Make him feel that you love him unconditionally; that you would never force him to change.
At the end of it all, it’s really a matter of being able to meet his needs and expectations; and being able to communicate with him your own personal needs and expectations as well. You must always make it a point to stay honest with one another. You need to act like a genuine team; and you need to show him that you’re a team player as well.