She has had her heart broken by one too many boys in her day. They are always the same kinds of men that she’s attracted to. She likes the ones who don’t treat her well. Maybe she thought that one day, she could change them and turn them into people who were actually worth something in society. In the end, they only ended up breaking her spirit. But still she chose to persist. Maybe she thought that one day, she would get lucky, and one of these guys would eventually end up treating her the way that she deserved to be treated in the first place, but still, as fate would have it, love just never went the way the she wanted it to.
She was frustrated. She was broken. She was disappointed. And now, she’s practically losing hope. She understands that she’s been dating the wrong guys and that was her mistake to make. She’s owning up to the fact that maybe she should have been paying more attention to the nice boys like you. She knows that she’s been ignoring the men like you in favor of the guys who would eventually destroy her spirits. She knows that she’s been deliberately overlooking you for a lesser class of man. She’s sorry for that but she can’t do anything to change the past. She is going to have to live with her decisions and hope that her choices won’t come back to haunt her.
But still, she hopes for love and she hopes that she can find it in someone like you. But you should know a few things about her first. To start, she’s afraid. She has had her heart broken too many times and she doesn’t know if she can handle any more heartbreak. And next, she’s not entirely sure if she can rely on you to be the kind of guy that she needs you to be after she’s been used, abused, and manipulated so many times. To add to all of that, she’s not sure if she is going to be enough for you. She is a deeply damaged person and she knows that all damaged people carry some sort of baggage. But that’s just the tip of the ice berg. If you two are going to have any chance at falling in love with each other. There are some very specific things that she wants you to know about herself:
1. She isn’t used to being praised or complimented.
She has dated so many bad guys in the past, she isn’t used to being on the receiving end of compliments and nice gestures. So whenever you try to show her affection or whenever you throw a few compliments her way, don’t expect her to always respond appropriately. It’s not that she doesn’t necessarily appreciate them. It’s just that she doesn’t really know how to react to those things. Remember that these are new experiences for her and she isn’t always going to know what to do about them. Just remember to be patient, kind, and understanding with her as much as humanly possible.
2. She gets overwhelmed whenever you give her a lot of attention.
She is only ever used to being the one in the relationship who showers her partner with lots of time and attention. And so whenever she becomes the one who is in the receiving end of such attention, don’t expect her to deal with it well. She isn’t used to it. She might even feel suffocated with the minimal attention that you give her because she has been deprived of it for so many times in the past. She isn’t going to know what to do with it, so you have to give her the space she needs to acclimate herself to this new dynamic.
3. She isn’t going to trust you so easily.
Trust will be difficult to earn with her because she has had her trust betrayed so many times in the past. She is so tired of being disappointed and heartbroken. She is so fed up with men who just always choose to betray her trust like it’s nothing. That’s why she’s going to be very much guarded with you. You are going to have to fight to really earn her trust and that’s no easy feat.
4. She is going to suppress her feelings for as long as possible.
In her attempts to stay guarded, she isn’t necessarily going to be as open about how she feels about you. You aren’t going to be getting a lot from her because she doesn’t want to give you too much. She has given so much to her old flames and they all ended up disappointing her. So you can’t force her to rush her feelings
5. She is genuinely going to try her best to make things work with you.
It might not always show, but she genuinely wants to make things work with you. But she is too tired and too beaten to be the one who is always putting in the effort in a relationship. So you are going to have to put in a lot of the work. And when she’s inspired by your efforts, she is going to make everything worthwhile.
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