Life isn’t always going to be a smooth ride. In fact, far from it. You are going to find yourself in positions wherein you will just want to crawl into a hole and hide from everything. And that’s okay. That’s part of what makes you human and you’re just going to have to accept that. The universe isn’t always going to hand you the best lemons. But the least that you can do is try your best to make something that resembles lemonade.
You aren’t always going to get what you want in this life no matter how hard you might try. You might have the best intentions out there. You might have the most sincere and most genuine heart. You might try your absolute hardest. You might be giving your maximum effort and things might still not necessarily work out for you. It can be very infuriating whenever that happens. It can be very heartbreaking to know that you can give your all to something and you still don’t end up getting what you want.
This can apply to various aspects in life and not just love. And even though the list of tips and reminders that are going to be depicted in this article might be geared towards love, they can be just as applicable to other areas of life. So, whenever you feel like you are down in the dumps and you can’t go on in life, remind yourself of the things that are listed here. Reading this article might not necessarily solve your problems for you. But it’s going to give you a nice perspective on how you can better handle being broken and defeated in life.
1. Pain isn’t permanent at all.
The pain that you might be feeling in this moment is only going to be temporary. It’s not the kind of pain that is going to last forever. So, even though it might feel like it’s such a struggle to bear in the moment, take comfort in the fact that it’s not going to be there permanently. And once that pain subsides, you will come out of the situation a lot harder and stronger. It will take so much more to break you the next time around. You just have to make sure that you endure this particular rough patch that you are going through.
2. Feel comfortable with opening up to others.
Never feel pressured to just keep everything to yourself. For sure, there are going to be people around you who love you and who would be willing to do anything for you. You should always try to seek comfort and refuge in them. Love is the single most powerful force in the world. And if you allow yourself to feel loved by those you love, then it can help you through whatever struggle you might be going through.
3. Learn to just accept your emotions.
Don’t make the mistake of just ignoring how you feel. Yes, it’s important that you are able to take full control of your emotions. You don’t want to be acting hysterical or crazy with your feelings. But that doesn’t mean that you should be ignoring your emotions either. You should still be brave enough to confront how you feel in order for you to be able to conquer your emotions.
4. There is no way you can change the past.
It was Rafiki from the Lion King who said, “The past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it.” And there is much wisdom to be learned from that baboon. It’s true. The past can hurt you sometimes. When you look back and think about your failures and shortcomings, it can really sting. You might even have some regrets that haunt you until this very day. But what are you going to do with it? Are you going to wallow in your sadness? Are you going to suppress all those bad memories and pretend like they never happened? Well, according to Rafiki, you should just try to learn from past mistakes and keep on moving forward. At the end of the day, you’re only human and no one expects you to be perfect. However, you always have an opportunity to learn and become better.
5. Life is going to have its ups and downs.
Life isn’t always going to go the way that you want. And honestly, you shouldn’t want it to. Life would be pretty boring if you could just choose and dictate how everything would turn out. Part of what makes life so amazing is that it’s unpredictable. You put yourself out there and you take a chance on yourself. And if it pays off, the gratitude that you feel is going to be unlike any other. So, be thankful for your low days. They will teach you to appreciate your good days even more.