There’s this common misconception that’s going around which says that foreplay only ever really benefits the ladies. Mainstream chatter dictates that foreplay is a tool that girls use to get their guys to pleasure them and the man is just going to have to put up with it if she’s going to put out for him. But that’s not always the case. If this is how couples use foreplay in their relationships, then they are definitely doing things wrong. First of all, you and your partner should always be making the most out of every opportunity to get intimate with one another.
If you see foreplay as something that the both of you just need to get over with, then you’re definitely doing it wrong. Foreplay is a fantastic tool that the two of you can use to really build up the romantic energy and passion that you have just before you engage in sex. In fact, foreplay can do wonders for your sex life if you just know how to make the most out of it. Remember that the strongest and happiest couples are always capitalizing on opportunities to get intimate with one another. And if you’re not one of those couples, then you should be ashamed of yourselves.
Contrary to popular belief, foreplay isn’t just some kind of optional warm up. It’s one way for couples to really feel each other out; to gauge what kind of moods or mindsets they’re in during that particular time. It’s always a different experience every time and so foreplay can become a kind of self-discovery for both people in the relationship – regardless if you’re male or female. The more effective your foreplay is, then the better sex you’re going to have. It’s just that simple.
But what exactly do you have to be doing in order for the two of you to be doing foreplay the correct way? First, it’s important to establish what REAL foreplay is supposed to look like so that you can gain a better understanding of what it really is. The first thing that you have to keep in mind is that foreplay doesn’t always have to be a routine. Yes, you can have your go-to moves, but you don’t have to stick to them if you want to play around. In fact, it’s always encouraged that you be brave and creative enough to mix things up a little bit every once in a while.
The best way for you to free yourself from the stereotype that foreplay is only about pleasuring the woman, you can do your part to tease your man; you can be spicing up the experience for him as well. There are plenty of ways in which you can really get your man into the mood for doing it. Remember that sex is just as much mental as it is physical and emotional. You have to be able to play with his senses and stimulate him in ways that he never would have imagined.
You can make him go crazy and put him through a memorable experience with foreplay alone if you know the right moves to pull. If you want your man to be on full submission; if you want him to be eating out of your hands as you’re doing it, then perhaps you should do yourself a favor and try out some of these moves. Of course, you don’t have to limit yourselves to the stuff that’s listed on here. You can branch out and experiment a little bit. You can just use this as inspiration; or at the very least, a starting point:
1. Make sure that you look your absolute best.
Remember that you have to be able to stimulate your man in various ways. Part of it is visual stimulation. Make sure that you look your best. You can do this by dressing up in sexy lingerie or by putting on some light sexy makeup.
2. Engage in uncharacteristic dirty talk.
Show him what he’s in for. Let him know that you’re willing to go places that you don’t usually go to. Show him a side of you that he’s never seen before so that you can get him excited and anxious at the same time.
3. Practice your kissing skills beforehand.
This should be a no-brainer. There are very little things in the world that a good kiss wouldn’t be able to fix.
4. Make use of your hands.
Don’t be passive. Use your hands to take control of the situation. Touch his face. Stroke his hair. Rub his body.
5. Massage his pleasure points.
Now, the pleasure points an really vary depending on your guy. And it’s important that you familiarize yourself with your partner enough to know where he likes to be touched. This is where it really pays to have great attention to detail. And the better you know your partner, the likelier you will be able to keep him happy.