You don’t always have to be thinking about forever when you start dating someone. But it doesn’t hurt to be optimistic about things. Every relationship should have the potential to go all the way. You don’t have to pressure yourself in thinking about marriage or anything like that right away. But again, what you’re doing at the early part of a relationship is very important. You are essentially setting up a foundation for a potential life that you could be sharing together and you don’t want to be messing that up. If you build your relationship on a faulty foundation that is weak and flawed, then you can’t expect your relationship to last.
That’s why whenever you start dating someone, there are a few things that you need to come clean about. You have to start being honest with your partner with a few aspects of your life because if you start building your relationship on a mountain of lies, it’s all going to come crumbling down on you in the end. Of course, you don’t have to show all of your cards right away. There is value in keeping a few things to yourself. A lot of people are drawn to mystery and curiosity. Keep your partner guessing. But again, there are a few things that you need to be honest about right away so as to avoid any potential conflicts down the line.
Don’t have a clue as to what those things are? Don’t worry. That’s what this article is for. Read on through until the end of this list and make sure that you come clean on all fronts. It’s better to get these things out of the way early in a relationship so that you don’t have to worry about them later on.
1. Your kind of personality.
Of course, at the very early stages of your relationship, you can’t afford to be hiding who you really are. Come upfront and let yourself shine. Put your real personality on center stage. Let it take up the entire spotlight. You shouldn’t ever suppress who you really are.
You shouldn’t feel pressured to censor your true self. Be as true and as honest about who you are as possible. It never pays off to be a fake person. People will always end up respecting you more if you just be yourself. Also, you don’t want to be misleading a person by putting up a false facade. You need to start being comfortable with being yourself if you find this task too difficult.
2. Your mid-range goals.
You don’t necessarily have to be talking about your long-term goals. But you shouldn’t be limiting yourself to short-term goals like weekend plans either. Stick to a good number like around 3-5 years. Where do you see yourself within that period of time? Where will you be geographically?
How will your job status and career look like at that time? Will you be married? These are some good things to bring out into the open early in the relationship. Remember it’s always good to be forward-thinking. It shows that you are responsible and that you don’t leave the future up to chance.
3. Your philosophies on love and marriage.
Where do you stand on the concept of marriage? Are you the type of person who is strictly for monogamous relationships? Are you currently engaged in an open dating kind of situation? Be very upfront about your expectations from love and relationships in general.
You don’t want to be blindsiding your partner with your romantic intentions. You have to clearly talk about what you want from relationships so that you and your partner can start building a connection over your expectations. It wouldn’t make sense to be willfully deceiving each other with regards to this issue. What do you want most out of love and do you expect to find it from each other?
4. Your big deal breakers when it comes to relationships.
What are your biggest no-no’s as far as relationships are concerned? As uncomfortable as this conversation may be, it’s always best to bring it up early. For instance, you may not want to be with someone who wants a domesticated lifestyle. Perhaps you are adventurous and you like to wander.
If you and your potential partner are already clashing in that respect, then at least you already know that you are going to be incompatible in the future and it would be better for you to just quit while you’re ahead. Whenever the deal breakers are presented early, you might as well cut your losses and move on.
5. Your stance on kids.
Lastly, talk about whether or not you are open to the idea of having children. You don’t want to end up in a long-term relationship with one another only to discover that you don’t see eye to eye in this area. It’s a big deal and it needs to be discussed early on.