While you can doubt the intentions of your friends every once in a while, they are always looking out for your best interests. They genuinely want what is best for you and they would do anything to make you happy: even tell you the truth about your relationship.
There are very few feelings in the world that are worse than being in a fresh relationship with someone and being told by your friends that you have to end things. You start to rebel and you will hate your friends for wanting to deprive you of this happiness that you’re experiencing. You hate your friends for being all up in your business. You hate them for wanting to take something away from you that you value ever so dearly. And sometimes, you have the right to be upset. Maybe your friends are just acting upset that you no longer get to spend so much time with them. Maybe they are just jealous that they’re not in the kind of relationship that you’re in. If that’s the case, the just keep on going. They’ll come around eventually and everything will be back to normal. Just go on and keep living your perfectly happy and stable life in love with your boyfriend.
But sometimes, perhaps you should be paying attention to what your friends are saying. Maybe you have to consider the possibility that your friends are genuinely just looking out for you because they love you and they want what is best for you. Perhaps there is some validity to the points that they’re hurling your way. You have to remember that your love and your feelings can often blind you from the truth. You are always prone to some sense of biased judgement and it would be best to get an outsider’s perspective on things every so often.
Sometimes, your friends are just right, and you have to give in. You have to accept that the relationship that you’re in isn’t ideal and that you deserve better. You have to make the resolve to walk away, and when you choose to do so, at least you know your friends will be there for you. Here are a few times that your friends are right about telling you to just break up with your partner.
1. When they tell you that your partner doesn’t give a damn about what you want.
Sometimes, you can be so blinded by your love and your affection for your partner, you can often disregard yourself. You will forget to prioritize your needs in the relationship and you will be left with nothing to show for it when it’s all said and done. You have to always remember that you are also an important aspect of this relationship and that your needs must always be met.
2. When they see that you are fighting way too often.
Couples who argue endlessly about pointless things are always doomed to eventually failing. That’s why whenever your friends are telling you that you fight way too much, then you know that something is wrong. You have to reconsider being in a relationship with someone you just can’t seem to see eye to with on a number of various things. Perhaps the incompatibility issues between the two of you are just far too great. You don’t want to live a life full of cyclical arguments with a person that you are supposedly in love with.
3. When they learn that your partner is lying to you.
This is something that you really have to pay attention to especially if honesty is very important to you. You would never want to be in a relationship with someone who is deliberately lying to you or is concealing the truth from you. You should only want to be in a relationship with someone who comes clean to you about everything. You never want to be kept in the dark in a relationship because you are going to be the victim in that scenario.
4. When they tell you that your partner is being rude to you.
Sometimes, you’re just going to accept rude behavior even when you don’t deserve it from someone you’re madly in love with. For one, no one should ever get the right to be rude to you at all most especially your partner. You should never have to subject yourself to the kind of relationship wherein rudeness is prevalent.
5. When they discover that your partner is only using you for something.
You don’t ever deserve to be used as a tool for something else. You are a human being who has feelings and emotions. You are someone who has so much to offer the world. That’s why you can’t allow yourself to be objectified by your partner for whatever purpose. If your partner is using you for something other than love, then you should find yourself another person to be with.
So there. While you can doubt the intentions of your friends every once in a while, they are always looking out for your best interests. They genuinely want what is best for you and they would do anything to make you happy: even tell you the truth about your relationship.