One of the biggest mistakes that people often make when trying to find true love is forcing the issue. Too often, in our desperation, we force ourselves into a hole that we’re just not meant to fit in – and we end up ruining the entire romantic experience as a whole. Love can’t be forced – no matter how much you will it to. Yes, you can try your best to make love work. Of course, you should always be willing to put yourself out there. But at the end of the day, there are just some things that are beyond your control.
And when that happens, you need to be strong and mature enough to accept that you are helpless to the situation. There are only so many things that you can control with your effort. So, it’s very important for you to keep in mind that you can’t really force love if it’s not meant for you. The best thing that you can do is to continually work on yourself – expand your perspective and hone your personal skills. Live a life that you can genuinely be proud of and pursue love to the best of your abilities.
If love comes for you, then it’s going to come for you. And it’s only going to come when it’s ready to do so. You can’t make it come earlier or later than you want it to. That’s the whole idea of not forcing love. But again, you shouldn’t take that to mean that you can take a passive approach to finding love. You can still be keeping yourself busy. You can still be improving your chances at having love land at your doorstep on an earlier date. It’s all a matter of practicing the following tips.
And before you know it, love is going to come knocking around – and you better make sure that you’ll be ready for it.
1. Understand that another person isn’t going to give you a sense of completion – you have to find that within yourself.
The moment that you realize that you can’t rely on a relationship or another person to complete your life, a huge burden is going to be lifted off your shoulders. If you think that a relationship is going to give you ultimate fulfilment, you are placing a lot of unnecessary stress and pressure on your relationships by having that kind of mindset. That kind of pressure can create toxic and dysfunctional relationship environments. You have to understand that you can only find meaning in your life within yourself – and it can’t come from external factors. You complete yourself – not anyone else.
2. Build a life that you judge by your own standards.
How can you ever expect someone to fall in love with you if you’re not even in love with your own life? Rather than focusing all of your energies on forcing love to appear in places where it doesn’t exist, you can just focus on your own life instead. Grow and learn as an individual. Build a life that you can genuinely be proud of. And if love comes for you, at least you’ll be ready for it.
3. Figure out the qualities that attract you most to other people and develop those qualities within yourself as well.
To make yourself more attractive, maybe you should look at the things that attract you most to people and adopt those qualities for yourself. Life is a constant journey of self-improvement. You never stop learning. You never stop growing. You never stop evolving. Always make it a point to work on your weaknesses and hone your strengths.
4. Be more open to exploring new places and engaging in new things.
You never know where love is going to come from. And if you continuously deprive yourself of opportunities to find love, you aren’t necessarily doing yourself any favors. You have to remember that love can come from the most unexpected places and people. So you can’t really afford to be boxing yourself in. You have to break out of your bubble and explore new environments to expand your world a little more.
5. When you meet someone, don’t rush through the various stages of your relationship.
Again, love can’t be forced – and it’s definitely not something that can be rushed. So when you meet someone who you feel like you have potential with, just let the relationship take its natural course. Put your best self out there and manage your expectations wisely. Don’t give yourself a schedule or a timeline. Don’t give you or your partner any ultimatums. Live each moment as it comes – and always be sure to practice full presence in those moments.
Don’t be so keen on jumping the gun and rushing through the various stages of your relationship. You have to remember that in this world, nothing worth having ever comes easily or quickly. Remember that the best things in life are always worth waiting for. And I don’t think you would argue that true love is one of the best things that this life has to offer.
