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The year has come and gone and 2018 is finally upon us. This means that you have gone another year without having necessarily found the one to be in the perfect relationship with. You see all the people posting on social media about how a new year represents a new opportunity for growth and development in life. And as corny as that may sound, it’s not necessarily a bad belief system for you to adopt for your own life. Take the new year as a new chapter in your story that remains to be unwritten. Refresh your life and reboot your system. Make that change for the better and reap the benefits of a renewed perspective on life.
And if you particularly want to make sure that you finally find the love that has continually eluded you this year, then now is a better time than any. Now would be the best opportunity for you to really hone in and focus on just trying to find that relationship that you think you have been deserving of for the longest time. You have to decide that you’ve gotten to the point where senseless flings and temporary relationships will no longer be good enough for you. You have to want a real hot and heavy relationship for yourself and nothing less than that.
The plain truth is that you just can’t merely build a dating life on people you are physically attracted to. People rarely ever find success in dating in that manner. You have to remember that just because you’re both attracted to one another doesn’t necessarily mean that you have the emotional capacity and physiological maturity to actually sustain a relationship. If you really want to find success in your love life, you are really going to have to make sure that you are emotionally mature; and that you’re dating someone who actually is able to match your level of maturity as well. You could have a short-term relationship with someone you’re attracted to. But you’re going to have to really have a deep emotional connection with someone if you want things to go all the way.
1. Know the nonnegotiable aspects of the relationship you want.
Before you can really figure out whether a relationship is right for you or not, you have to first find out what you’re really looking for in a romance. Entering the dating scene without first establishing what you are or aren’t looking for would be like trying to exit a maze without necessarily knowing that you’re in one. You have to have a vision for yourself. You have to have standards and goals. This way, it would be easier for you to filter out people who would never be able to make things work in a relationship with you.
2. Be fully present and mindful when you date someone.
Avoid multitasking. Yes, in a fast-paced world that we live in today, it’s hard to not get left behind if we just focus on one or a few aspects of our lives. But with love, you’re really going to have to hone in and focus. You have to be mindful and present. You can’t be thinking about other things when you’re dating someone. You can’t be getting too caught up in other things when you’re trying your best to make an early relationship work. If you want to fall in love, you really have to devote time and effort to it.
3. Embrace the joys that come with singlehood.
Before you could ever really be comfortable in a relationship with someone else, you must first learn to be able to be comfortable in your singlehood. If you are too desperate at escaping that single life, then you risk just settling for someone who isn’t necessarily going to be right for you. You might also develop a certain dependence on this person and on the relationship which is never going to be healthy.
4. Keep your priorities straight.
At the end of the day, you are looking to build a strong emotional bond with this person. Yes, the perks of falling in love and being with someone can be great. But you should still be building the foundation of your relationship on a strong bond of love and commitment.
5. Don’t rush into anything you’re not comfortable with.
The best things in life are always going to take time and you can’t rush into anything prematurely. This principle and belief system should carry over into relationships. You can’t expert a relationship to reach its full potential if you are just forcing yourself and your partner to rush through various relationship stages. You have to take things naturally and organically as they come to you. Let your love build and grow on its own time and you will end up very thankful for it. Patience is a virtue, and that’s no lie.
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