When you first meet a person you develop a romantic interest for, it can be very exciting. You dream up all sorts of ideal scenarios wherein the two of you end up together. And the idea of it all just thrills you. It’s a very exciting time in your life wherein you are having to navigate your relationship with this person. And at first, you might be scared, but you still take that chance. You know that this has the potential to actually be something special. You know that this could be what you’ve been searching for forever.
But then, things don’t seem so bright and sunny anymore. Suddenly, things start to turn bleak; and you’re not really sure about your love at this point. The problems in your relationship start becoming more and more apparent and serious. And it gets to a certain breaking point where the two of you just have to walk away. And you might even still be in love with one another, but that doesn’t matter. You both know that you have to end things; and that your love isn’t enough to pull you through.
But it hurts nonetheless. You invested so much into his relationship. You gave so much of yourself to this relationship You did everything that you could to try to make things work and you still ended up falling short. You still didn’t get to where you needed to be despite your best intentions; despite all of your efforts. It hurts. It really hurts when you get your heart broken like that. It really hurts when you realize that all of your hopes and dreams have come crashing down on you in an instant. It’s painful, and that’s not the kind of pain that is easy to recover from.
Your view of love might forever be tainted at this point. But you can’t allow for that to happen. Yes, it might feel like you’ve only betrayed yourself. It might feel like the reason you are so bent and broken now is that you allowed yourself to fall in love in the first place. But that’s part of it. You have to understand that that is an essential aspect of falling in love; opening yourself up to getting hurt. You can do everything that you can for the one that you love. But at the end of the day, if it’s not meant to be, then it’s not meant to be. And that’s why you really need to make it a point to not let this taint your view of love. Don’t lose hope. Yes, the path to being okay again isn’t going to be easy; but it’s not impossible either.
If you feel like you need some help in becoming okay again, then you’ve definitely come to the right place. Here are a few things that you can take to heart; a few pieces of wisdom that you can use to help you on your path of healing. Undoubtedly, you are in pain right now. It hurts when you have to say goodbye to a person you never thought you would ever have to let go of. But moving on isn’t impossible.
1. Take as much time as you need to move on.
Moving on isn’t easy, and it’s not necessarily a process that you can rush. Some people are able to move on within a matter of days, and others might take a few months. But whatever the case, you have to make sure that you stick to your own pace.
2. Try to dip your feet back into the waters.
Don’t be afraid to get back out there when you’re ready. Of course, you don’t have o get hot and heavy with someone new right away. You don’t have to be jumping into the sack with the next person you see. But it’s always nice to get back into the swing of things.
3. Make sure that you understand why the two of you had to say goodbye.
Know your “why”. It might be uncomfortable to have to entertain these thoughts, but it’s necessary. You always have to be able to know “why” you needed to break up in the first place if you’re going to eventually find closure about your whole situation. You won’t be able to move on completely if you don’t let yourself confront these uncomfortable thoughts that you have.
4. Really think about what you want out of life and love.
Moving forward, you need to be able to set your priorities straight. And you can’t do that if you don’t know what you want out of love. You need to really look inside of yourself and figure out what you want out of love moving on.
5. Fall in love with the person you’re really meant to be with.
And when you’re finally ready to take that leap again, take a chance and fall in love once more.