To a certain extent, we are all going to want to welcome adoration and admiration from people around us – especially from those who mean the most to us. It should come as no surprise that a girl is going to want to welcome compliments from her man. Based on a study in the PLOS One journal, giving a person a compliment can significantly boost a person’s mood.
The conductors of the study have claimed that it can simulate the same positive energy as one would have when receiving a large amount of money. That is why you should never shy away from telling your woman that you think she is pretty and attractive. Naturally, that might be easier said than done.
It can be very easy to come off as creepy, sleazy, and disgusting whenever you approach a woman in the wrong way. You might come across as insensitive and disrespectful if you happen to use the wrong words or convey the wrong messages to a woman. You never want a woman to feel like you are merely reducing her to how she looks like. You don’t want to be objectifying her in any way, shape, or form.
You always want to be treating her as a genuine human being with depth and character. She is more than her physical beauty. There are plenty of other aspects of her personality that you can compliment. You shouldn’t be sending her a message that she’s purely visual candy for you. She isn’t a woman who exists for your pleasure. And if you feel like you need some help in that department, then this article is definitely for you. Here are a few ways you can tell a woman that she’s attractive without being sexual.
1. Act very casually and have good timing.
Timing is everything. Sometimes, even the best kind of compliment that is given at the wrong time can backfire. You also don’t want to be complimenting a woman so intimately when you’ve only just met. That’s only going to scare her away. First, it’s important for you to establish a kind of rapport with the girl.
Build a connection first and once you feel like you have a bond, then that’s when you can throw a few compliments here and there. You need to get her to be comfortable with you first. Don’t be so aggressive. Always be mindful of her situation and your surroundings. If she doesn’t seem like she’s in the mood to engage with you, then just respect her space and walk away.
2. Be mindful of delivery and context.
It’s definitely possible for you to tell a girl that she’s pretty without being creepy or sleazy at all. It all really depends on the content and the delivery of your compliment. You just have to make sure that you aren’t being vulgar. Just try to remember the basic rules of being a true gentleman.
Don’t make her feel like she’s being harassed and catcalled. Try to work a compliment into a conversation organically as opposed to just blurting it out on the onset. That’s a much better approach to making her feel at ease with accepting a compliment from you.
3. Be very careful with the words that you use.
If you are interested in a girl, then you have to refrain from using words such as “hot” or “sexy” to describe her. She isn’t going to respond all too well to that especially if you’re not really in an intimate relationship just yet. In fact, just refrain from words that might indicate physical attraction altogether.
Go for a compliment that is casual and endearing. For instance, you could let her know that you really like the fact that she has a nice sense of humor. Or perhaps, you can tell her that you are greatly intrigued by her wisdom and her intelligence.
4. Try to not make a big deal about it.
If you’re going to try to make a big deal out of the compliment that you give her, then it could potentially backfire on you. You shouldn’t be giving her a compliment as if it’s a grand gift that you have bestowed on her. You just have to keep things light and casual. Otherwise, if your compliment backfires, then you’re going to end up wishing that you didn’t make a big deal out of it at all. Play it cool. Keep it casual.
5. Know the difference between being self-aware and self-conscious.
You always want to be staying fully aware of the kind of vibe and energy that you are sending off. However, you don’t want to be self-conscious. You don’t want to have diminishing confidence or self-assuredness. Always stay confident. Always believe in yourself. But don’t take your eyes off the prize.