5 Ways You Become More Independent After Being Single For So Long
Being single is an opportunity for you to find stability, growth, and development on your own time and at your own pace.
Being single doesn’t have to be all bad. Stop buying into the whole notion that just because you haven’t been successful in your relationships means that you are less of a person. You aren’t unlovable just because you can’t manage to land yourself in a healthy and sustainable relationships. Sometimes, love just comes later for some compared to others. And that can be seen as both a blessing and a burden. Sure, at first glance, you wallow in self-pity. You are saddened at the thought of you being alone; at the idea of you never seeming to find someone who can consistently be there for you. You take a single glance at your social media feed and you see romance and couples all around. You hate it. You hate the fact that you don’t have what they have. You desperately yearn to be a part of that crowd; but fate just refuses to cooperate. That’s fine. You’re not the only one who feels like that. There are so many people around the world who are desperately clawing at the chance to be in a relationship. Sadly, there others who wrongly settle for mediocre relationships just because they want to escape living that single life. You should never let that happen to yourself. Yes, you are single. But that doesn’t mean that you have a terrible life. You have to make sure to focus on the positives of being single so that you don’t end up settling for a love that is beneath you. Being single affords you a certain sense of independence and freedom that gets tainted whenever you fall into a relationship with someone. And that’s just plain fact.
Now, that shouldn’t be taken to mean that people in relationships are virtually incapable of being independent. Of course, there are people who can be independent despite being in loving relationships. In fact, the healthiest and happiest couples always promote independence in their relationship so as not to fall into a toxic codependent romantic environment. But there’s still no denying the fact that there’s a different kind of independence and freedom that comes with being single. It’s liberating. It’s exciting. It’s freeing. And it’s very important to focus on those aspects of being single rather than wallowing in your own self-pity. Love is going to find its way to you soon enough; and when it does, you don’t want to end up being the person who regrets not making the most out of your full independence while you still could.
Being single is an opportunity for you to find stability, growth, and development on your own time and at your own pace. Here are 5 ways you become more independent after being single for just far too long.
1. The only person responsible for your life is yourself.
You will really be forced to grow as an individual in your singlehood. You can’t rely on anyone else to pay your bills. You can’t rely on anyone else to do groceries and run errands for you. You can’t just ask someone to fix that broken piece of furniture in your apartment. You will have to do things on your own and you will be better for it.
2. You’re forced to go outside of your comfort zone alone.
Typically, it’s much easier to be outside of your comfort zone whenever you’re doing it with someone you love. However, with your singlehood, you have to learn to get comfortable with the things that make you uncomfortable by yourself. This way, you end up becoming adept to facing adversity on your own.
3. You learn to keep yourself busy with your alone time.
You are never not productive because you would otherwise be bored out of your mind as a single person. You can’t always be spending time with your friends and family. And you don’t have a SO to be sharing your life with. So you learn to entertain yourself by being productive and doing things that actually add value, meaning, fulfilment, and joy into your life.
4. You get to make decisions about your future without having to think about anyone else.
You get to call all of the shots. You get to make all of the plans. You have full control of how you want to live your life and you don’t really need to be thinking about anyone else when it comes to making decisions on things. You only really have yourself to worry about because you aren’t accountable to anyone else.
5. You get to figure out what you really want out of life and relationships through your process of self-discovery.
Through your singlehood, you will go through a significant phase of self-discovery. And the more that you learn about yourself, the more you discover about what it is you’re really looking for in life and in relationships.
Talk to me
Does this resonate with you? Talk to me in the comments below!