Pay attention to these scary behaviors!
Any major relationship milestone is never going to be something that arises out of the spur of the moment well, most of the time anyway. The moment that you get together with a person is the result of accumulated feelings and memories that you share together as a couple. And so it shouldn’t be any different if you choose to break up either.
Whenever your partner decides to break up with you, it isn’t going to be something that they will decide on the spot and act on right away. There is a very meticulous thought process that goes on in a person’s mind before they actually come to the decision of breaking up with someone else. Breakups generally come to fruition as a result of some very deep-seeded issues and unresolved conflicts.
That is why plenty of experts on the matter will profess that communication is key in maintaining a healthy and loving relationship. When a couple practices poor or mediocre communication in the relationship, then the lines between them are further established and it will be hard for them to connect with one another. You would be surprised at how many couples terminate their relationships just because they were unable to talk things out with each other. It’s unfortunate, but it’s the truth. But it doesn’t always have to be the case. So the best way to prevent a breakup is to address the problems in a relationship as they come. You have to be able to properly hash out any points of conflict in the relationship.
You can’t afford to let them linger and accumulate into a full cloud of dust. You must get rid of the stink immediately so as to preserve the strength of your union. So the moment that you find your partner exhibiting a few of the signs that are listed on here, then you have to act. There is a problem in your relationship and if you remain passive, you are going to break up eventually. You have to stay ahead of the curve and you can do so by spotting the problems early on and addressing them right away.
Here are a few behavioral signs that your partner is thinking about breaking up with you:
1. They assume the worst in you without any reason to do so.
They always think that you’re going to be at your worst. They will prepare to argue whenever they’re with you. They will brace for hurtful comments from you. They will put on a brave face whenever you’re together because they assume you are consistently the worst version of yourself when you’re together. You have to be able to fix that.
2. They criticize and torment you on everything that you do.
If you are at the receiving end of constant criticism, then that’s a red flag that things are wrong. It’s okay for you to honestly criticize one another every once in a while. But if it’s done regularly, then there may be a hint of resentment and ill feelings there that you need to pay attention to.
3. They don’t actively pay attention to what you’re saying.
When your partner is deliberately ignoring everything that you have to say, then that is a serious issue that you need to resolve in the relationship. Of course, as a couple, you shouldn’t be making your partner feel like their opinions and thoughts won’t be valued or given importance. If your partner is refusing to pay you any mind, then you really have to make yourself heard or else your relationship will end up in flames.
4. They lash out at you regularly without substantial reason.
You are always at the receiving end of fits of anger and you don’t even know why. There is a reasonable explanation for this. When people feel unsettled or uncomfortable, they will tend to project this discomfort to the nearest possible targets: in this case, it’s you. You have to address this discomfort and unsettlement if you want to fix things in the relationship.
5. They would rather hang out in group settings than spend time alone with you.
They no longer feel comfortable with being alone with you. Perhaps it’s because it is probable that you are both going to get into an argument with each other. Or maybe there’s awkwardness between the two of you because there is an underlying tension there. Either way, you’re going to need to talk things out.
6. They don’t allow you to have your individual space.
When you get into a relationship with someone, it’s understandable that you would have to give up some sense of freedom and individuality. You are choosing to share your life with another person and you can’t afford to be selfish all of the time anymore. But if you notice that your partner is actively limiting your freedom, then it means that there is a certain distrust there and you need to address it.
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