When seeking love, we sometimes overlook red flags that could indicate potential issues. It’s essential to be aware of these signs to make better relationship choices.
Here are the six dating red flags of narcissists that most people mistake as green flags.
1. Love bombing is viewed as “finally” meeting your soulmate
At the start, they may give you lots of love, compliments, and attention, making you feel like they’re perfect for you. But beware, this intense affection could be a way to manipulate you. They might show their real self later on, so be careful and take your time to see their true intentions.
2. Honesty even when it’s brutal and cruel
They say they’re brutally honest and proudly use their sharp words. But be careful because this so-called “honesty” can be hurtful and demeaning. In a healthy relationship, honesty should be kind and respectful, not hurtful. Don’t let anyone take away your self-esteem; you deserve to be treated with love and respect. Trust your feelings and set boundaries to protect yourself from harmful behavior.
3. A “quirky” sense of humor
At first, their jokes may seem fun, but be careful if they make you feel bad about yourself. Narcissists use humor to put you down and make you doubt yourself. In a good relationship, jokes should make you happy, not hurt you. Trust your gut, and don’t let anyone make you feel small or unimportant. Remember, you deserve to be treated with love and respect.
4. Too much openness and “vulnerability”
They might seem very open and share everything with you, making themselves vulnerable and emotionally available. But be careful – this could be a way to manipulate your feelings and gain control over you. Sometimes, people use oversharing to make you feel responsible for their emotions and actions, which can be harmful. Remember, in a genuine relationship, both partners respect and support each other without using manipulation tactics.
5. Having many close friendships with the opposite sex
It’s normal to have friends of all genders, but be cautious of narcissists who use their opposite-sex friendships to make you jealous and insecure. They might use these friendships to show they’re desirable and have control over the relationship. In a healthy relationship, trust and respect are essential, so if you feel uncomfortable or controlled, it’s essential to communicate your feelings openly. Remember, you deserve to be with someone who respects your boundaries and makes you feel secure.
6. An over-the-top interest in spirituality and your spiritual beliefs
At first, they may act very spiritual and show interest in your beliefs. But if their interest feels fake or becomes a way to manipulate you and make you feel guilty about your values – it’s a red flag. In a loving relationship, both partners respect each other’s beliefs without using them against each other.
