Aren’t you so tired of just jumping from one relationship to the next? It has got to be so exhausting having to bear disappointment after disappointment. You start to get really intimate with someone only to have that intimacy die down over time.
You get your hopes up with every relationship and then you just end up feeling so unfulfilled and saddened. That’s the risk you run when you fall in love. You have your expectations going into a relationship, and when your expectations aren’t being met, you find yourself feeling disgruntled. And if it happens often enough, you might not want to have anything to do with love anymore.
But you shouldn’t lose hope. You have to remember that it’s only a problem if you don’t have a solution. And when it comes to love, there is always a solution. Sure, some relationships just aren’t meant to be. You can’t force love to appear in places that it’s just not supposed to be in. But you can always put yourself in the best possible position to succeed in your relationships. And that all starts with practicing good habits.
You have to be humble enough to acknowledge that you aren’t a perfect human being. You have your flaws and your shortcomings. You have your imperfections and your blemishes. You are only human after all. And so it’s highly likely that you have had a hand in all of your romantic misfortune. Remember that out of all your failed relationships, you are the common denominator.
So, don’t be so quick to rule out the possibility that you are doing things that you shouldn’t be doing in relationships at all. Don’t worry; not all of us are going to innately know how to find success in love. That’s exactly what this article is for.
You aren’t always going to be guaranteed to find love with every person you meet but you can always do your best to improve your chances. If you’re in a relationship now and you feel like you have a legitimate shot at going all the way, then don’t squander that opportunity by being stupid. Here are 6 intimate things that you can do to make sure that your current relationship is also your last one.
1. Don’t rush through the various stages of your relationship.
Remember that even though you might want to go through life at a very fast pace, your partner might not be so comfortable with doing so. You can’t afford to be so selfish anymore. When you are in a relationship, you must also be considerate of your partner’s needs and standards. If your partner wants to take things slow, then you have to be able to respect that and both of you must come to a compromise on the pace of your relationship.
2. Communicate your goals and expectations to one another on a regular basis.
People change over time. And with that, certain goals and expectations might change as well. That’s why both of you must make it a point to maintain constant communication with one another about your goals and expectations so that you are always on the same page.
3. Don’t carry emotional baggage from old relationships into your new one.
Relationships are emotional rollercoasters. So if you’re still harboring the emotional weight of previous relationships, then it’s highly unlikely that you will be able to handle the emotional weight of your current relationship. Let go of the past and focus on the present with a mind towards the future.
4. Honor whatever boundaries your partner sets for you.
Just because you are in a relationship together doesn’t mean that you are entitled to take control of your partner’s life. You have to remember that you are both still individual human beings who are coexisting in an intimate space. And if you don’t want to violate the sanctity of that coexistence, then you need to be able to honor each other’s boundaries.
5. Stay committed to your partner and to the relationship.
A lot of the time, it’s really a matter of being able to commit to one another. And if you can’t commit to your partner, you don’t have what it takes to make your love last at all.
6. Learn to live an independent lifestyle so as to take away some pressure from your relationship.
Sometimes, pressure can cripple a relationship to a point beyond repair. And it even has the power to bring in a lot of toxicity into an otherwise romantic environment. That’s why you have to stop putting so much pressure on your relationship to succeed. And the fastest way to put unwanted pressure on your relationship is to treat it like the only aspect of your life. You can’t do that.
Yes, you have to prioritize your relationship; but you can’t let it be your whole world either. Learn to live an independent lifestyle so that you don’t have to grow reliant on your relationship to find fulfillment and meaning in life. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you should just give up who you are as an individual.