It is an absolute tragedy and travesty whenever you find yourself in a sexually abusive relationship. The very existence of sexually abusive individuals is a dark mark on the face of humanity. According to the latest statistics from leading experts and specialized organizations, a person is sexually abused every minute or so in the United States alone. And a lot of these instances involve minors or people who are underage. And sexual abuse has gotten so rampant to the point that a vast majority of perpetrators go unpunished for their crimes.
And sexual abuse can be very dangerous for a victim on multiple levels. Yes, there are physical risks involved especially when a body isn’t ripe for sexual activity. However, the risks are also magnified with the possibilities of unwanted pregnancies and abortions as a result of these sexual encounters. And then there are also the emotional and mental harms that come with being sexually abused by someone. There are plenty victims of sexual abuse who undergo severe psychological trauma as a result of their experiences – and this is trauma that needs to be treated for long periods of time.
One of the more frustrating things about dealing with people who are sexually abusive is that they tend to fly very under the radar. A lot of these predators are master manipulators; they are able to do what they do without making it seem like they are doing anything wrong until it’s too late. In fact, these sexually abusive individuals are so good at what they do, they manage to find a way to sometimes make their victims believe that it’s their own faults.
This is especially common when the sexual abuse takes place in a genuine romantic relationship between two individuals who supposedly trust one another. And it makes sense too. If you fall in love with someone, and you become attached to that person, why would you ever come to think of that person as a potential sexual abuser? Why would you ever believe that that person would do anything to harm you? Why would you ever think that you would become victimized by a person who you love?
And that’s just the thing. That’s why relationships are perfect cover ups for people who are sexually abusive. It’s so much easier to strike when no one is expecting you to do so. And these sexual predators understand that more than anyone. So that is why you need to make sure that you maintain your vigilance in your relationships. You always want to make sure that even though you love your partner, you aren’t allowing yourself to be gullible enough to get hurt and abused by them.
You have to be able to recognize that you are being victimized by someone and you need to do something to remedy that situation. But that’s also part of the problem. There are just so many victims of sexual abuse who are unable to recognize that they are in abusive relationships until it’s too late. And by then, the damage will have been done. And they risk being too scarred or traumatized to actually do something about it. So you always have to make sure that you are able to spot the red flags early on.
This is only for your own insurance. This is just to make sure that you are keeping yourself protected; that you are keeping yourself guarded. There are just so many people out there who would be so willing to capitalize on your weakness and gullibility. Here are a few signs that you are in a sexually abusive relationship.
1. Your partner guilts you for not wanting to sexually engage with him.
He makes you feel guilty whenever you say that you’re not in the mood for sex or if you tell him that you’re not ready for it yet. He’s somehow going to make it feel like he’s entitled to your body and that it’s your fault that you’re depriving him of his entitlement.
2. Your partner only ever wants to hang out with you when you’re about to have sex.
Your relationship can’t ALL be just about sex. If it is, then your partner is probably just using you for your body.
3. Your partner doesn’t respond to your requests and needs in the bedroom.
When you say that it hurts, he doesn’t respond. When you tell him that you want him to do more, he doesn’t care much so as long as he’s satisfied. He’s selfish and he doesn’t really care about your needs.
4. Your partner makes you feel ashamed for not being enough for him in the sack.
He makes you insecure. He belittles your performance. He does this to guilt you into thinking that you owe him; that somehow he deserves more than what you’re giving him.
5. You don’t feel safe in your own relationship.
You should always be able to feel safe in your own relationship. If that isn’t the case, then you definitely know that something is wrong. It means that the relationship in itself scares you because of the environment that your partner is cultivating. If you’re feeling unsafe in your relationship, it’s a definite cause for worry and you need to walk away from that situation.
