You’re meant to last forever. Some certain traits and habits define a “good relationship,” certain things that assure you that you’re doing the right thing, and you’re on the right path, the path to a long-lasting and healthy relationship. I’ve seen my fair share of ups and downs, and I have no regrets; even from the most traumatic of relationships, people still come out with a few lessons, lessons that help them grow as individuals and make them better partners in the future. In this article, I’m going to list down six of the most common signs that will tell you that you’re a fantastic partner, and your relationship is going to last.
1. You’re happy to learn, every day
A relationship works best when people accept the fact that they aren’t perfect, and there’s always room for improvement. I used to think I knew everything there was to know about relationships, my girlfriend made me realize how wrong I was, I had a lot to learn, and I was happy with that feeling. Relationships are meant to enhance two people, to make them combine their strengths for each other to form a happier connected life, people in relationships happily learn from each other without any sign of ego or denial. I’m not perfect, neither are you, but it’s our imperfections that make us beautiful and define us. There is no shame in learning from someone you hold very dear to you; it’s a blessing.
2. You accept your mistakes without hesitation
I used to be a very negative person; I used to never own up to my mistakes because I was someone who thought he was never wrong; I was living in a delusional world. I wasn’t going to last very long, so I changed a few things about myself, things that were damaging my integrity. There is no shame whatsoever in owning up to your mistakes; it’s very relieving and impressive. People who beat about the bush and always blame others for their own mistakes are weak; they’re the ones who will never indeed be able to love someone because they don’t even love themselves enough to accept the truth. There is no shame in saying “I’m sorry” when you do something wrong like I said earlier, ego should not be a part of your relationship. If you’re someone who finds no shame in admitting when you’re wrong, you’re a fantastic partner.
3. You don’t punish your partner
This may seem funny or too extreme to some people, but I’ve seen it happen, it’s cruel and sad, but it is what it is. I’ve seen some of the most destructive relationships where one person purposely tries to punish the other person with their words, just because they’re too frustrated with their selves and are too afraid and insecure to admit it. Understand something; your partner is not liable or accountable for your past and the pain that came with it. Don’t punish your partner because of someone else’s mistakes; start life anew with them if you want a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship.
4. You are content with your past
As I stated in my previous point, whatever happened with you in your past doesn’t define you as a person, and it surely isn’t something your partner should be blamed for in the present. I’ve seen people, people who are too caught up in their past, people who can’t seem to let go, people who don’t understand that they aren’t ready to be in a new relationship, those are the people who end up being more hurt because of another damaged relationship. They’ll still blame their past for it. Be someone who has accepted the past and moved on, who knows that the past isn’t the future, and the future is more important. Be content with your history, and you’ll be satisfied with your partner.
I’ve said this countless times before you can commit to someone, you need to be completely happy with the person you are without a doubt in your mind. You need to accept your individuality and be content with your personality openly; most people pretend to be someone else to please the person they want to be with, only to resort to their selves once they’re in a relationship, don’t be one of those people. Accept the fact that you have flaws, understand that we all do, nobody is perfect, none of us are saints, we are all human, willing to learn as we go. Love yourself, and you’ll love your partner even more, and it’ll all happen naturally.
6. You show gratitude
If you’re someone who always finds the beauty in even the saddest of situations, you’re going to be a fantastic partner. Be someone who shows gratitude, be someone who doesn’t complain about every other thing, be someone who loves the small gestures, and the little efforts that most people who bluntly ignore. When you learn to find happiness out of the minor things your partner does for you, you can’t even imagine the joy you’ll get out of your relationship, and in lieu of all of this, you’ll be in a happy and long-lasting relationship.
Question of the day
What’s the one thing about your partner that you love the most? The one thing that makes you smile, even if you’re sad. Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!