You’ve found your soulmate <3
Whenever we hear the stories of love, we always tend to focus on the grandest and most romantic aspects of it. We are almost conditioned to believe that love is always going to be an endless series of thrills and high points. We are always taught to examine love from the extremes of how it can either be extreme elation or extreme tragedy.
We take what we see in the movies; the stuff we read about in books; the kind of feelings that we hear about in songs, and we try to apply these feelings into our lives. And that’s why a lot of us tend to grow discontented and disappointed whenever we find ourselves in loving relationships. We hype love up too much in our minds to the point where we develop unreasonable expectations for it.
We fail to recognize that a huge bulk of what makes love is the grind of it all. Love is a marathon and not a series of sprints. Love is something that is continually worked on and consistently built on every single day that two people are together. In fact, a lot of what makes up true love are the little things. It’s not always going to be the grand romantic gestures or dramatic moments. Love is mostly composed of little things and habits that couples practice with one another on a daily basis.
We have to be able to separate the idea of excitement and love. While love can be exciting, it’s so much more than that. Love is inherently more complex than having your heart skip a beat. Love is so much more complicated than just experiencing thrill and exhilaration with someone. A lot of us get so caught up in reconciling our perceptions of what love is and how we think it should be that we end up misleading ourselves. We can’t do that.
We have to be able to recognize that love is so much more than a temporary feeling. It’s a one-of-a-kind experience that two people participate in for the long haul. And that experience can be both mundane and exciting. It has its moments and these moments are dynamic. They can go from high to low to moderate fairly quickly.
So many of us are so guilty of focusing on the flair and the flash of what love has to offer that we end up failing to recognize the person behind that love. We have to refrain from putting our partners on pedestals. We can’t keep on expecting them to make us feel a certain way. We can’t expect them to always act the way that we want them to act. Sometimes, love can be inconvenient and that’s part of the deal. That’s just something about love that you’re going to have to bear with. So don’t throw away a perfectly good love with the right person just because it didn’t turn out to be the narrative that you expected it to be.
Here are 6 signs that you have found the perfect partner for you and you should stop looking.
1. You feel comfortable with where you are in your relationship.
A lot of people can mistake a comfortable relationship with a boring one. Just because your relationship isn’t going full-speed ahead anymore doesn’t mean that it isn’t the right one for you. It just means that the both of you have found a comfortable pace and rhythm for yourselves.
2. You find it easy to come to resolutions and compromises with your partner.
No couples are going to be without their fair share of fights or disagreements. And so that’s why compatibility always plays a big role in determining the success of a relationship. Be thankful if you happen to have a partner who you can come to resolutions fairly easily with.
3. You grow to understand that your own happiness is dependent on yourself and not on anyone else.
If you are with someone who makes you understand that you have to rely on yourself for happiness, then that’s good. This person has taught you that you can’t have a codependent relationship if you want to survive as a couple.
4. You both have a rare kind of tolerance and acceptance for each other’s flaws and shortcomings.
No one is perfect. Both of you are going to have your fair share of flaws and imperfections. But what is most important is that you are able to develop healthy patience and tolerance for these things. When you have someone who is patient enough to let you be your own person even when your imperfections start affecting the relationship, then that’s something real that you can build on.
5. You both share reconcilable goals, dreams, and values.
It’s all about being able to fit into each other’s visions of the future. If your goals just don’t align, then there’s no point of staying together because you’re eventually going to break up anyway.
6. You are both hell-bent on making things work between the two of you.
And you know that things aren’t going to be easy, but you also know that both of you are willing to do whatever it takes to make things work. You know that relationships aren’t simple, but you embrace the challenges that are ahead of you.
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